I've never had much of a problem with my Dom hat fitting me. Yeah I admit it's taken some time to have it fit comfortably to where it now sits.
I'm not afraid to put this hat away or to proudly display when I want to. That's the point here , when I want too , not when I have too.
I used to feel I had to wear this Dom hat as a matter of expectations. Oh this submissive is making moves at me so I better put on the hat so she knows, so she can see I'm a Dom! I thought like this for a good while. Like I had to wear a sign above me that read : Dom available please ask for his assistance in your next adventure : ...I think it was called naive learning curves.
There was the fear factor too that ride me like racehorse in the beginning. The ball gets rolling I'm wearing the hat and I might find myself sitting with a submissive across my lap and there I was staring at a bare arse , a lovely bare arse mind you and I'm going to be slapping it : slap! harder ! slap !! harder!! SLAP!!! ....and the hat goes fucking bananas getting up inside my head shrieking too hard ! not hard enough! ig she's gonna hate me ! get a grip youre a Dom ! ....the turmoil was plentiful but I did notice it grew less and less as I wore the hat more and more.
There times I hid my hat. You me jumper it went. I was yes with her noting her movements her words the way the words were being used together and I knew she was submissive but was totally freaked out by it and I knew if I put the hat on she's up sticks and clear off and I would not be able to handle that or accept my part in destroying those budding thoughts she was having, so the hat is put away.
This hat is getting old now has seen some days and nights. Has been dragged through a bush backwards , has encoutered the weird the wonderful and the insanely erotic. So with its age comes comfort , comes a strong sense of self , has still the interest to learn , can be not to everyone's liking or taste even , even can be content enough to be alone if that is what lies in its path but the thing it is that most important most powerful , it's mine it my Dom hat and if a submissive wants to have me wear it and tell me I look good in it I'm still here ...