There is for me a certain loneliness with being a Dominant.
The facade has to be a certain way and it can be hard work to keep up the maintenance.
It's not that I lie to myself and paint over the cracks or worse ignore them until it's now more than a crack and needs a lot more work doing. I walk hand and hand with my Dom self. He's not brash loud or clambering to be front and centre. No . Instead he's the productive of a lot years work.
So when he sees someone he wants to engage with it's not always to put down his mark or stamp his authority ,no, it's as varied as being struck by something in someone's profile like a photo that resonates or a BDSM checklist that has something in it that he likes , maybe it could be a blog from this someone where he feels compelled to say something, through understanding of the words and through knowledge of this world we walk in BDSM.
Then, yes of course he can reach out to someone because they have literally attracted him, again, through a profiles contents from words to a photo he feels he wants make his presence known.
It's this presenting himself to someone. No stupid "pick up" lines or ignorant self promotion or sending a dick pic and thinking : ' that will do and that will have her running to me'. He tries to present himself as himself and puts in the efforts , maybe taking a point from the profile or just openly expressing the like of a photo and why it's liked.
So this is where his loneliness stems from. The silence. The pure silence. The complete and utter opposite of what was there in the profile to make him step forwards and make his presence be seen be known.
This silence is lonely. It can give the impression he is walking alone that there is no one to walk with because they haven't the perception that being silent can be lonely to the person who is trying to speak.