Here for me this time around

A much needed time away with the most beautiful women I know.  These women have been my strength through struggling times and my cheerleaders during life’s wins.  They heal me and bring me back to myself. 

We are tucked into the sweetest older home on the outskirts of a quaint little town in Indiana. The guest book tells the story of the family that built this house and all of the love that was made and shared through the years.  You can feel it too, it’s almost palpable. I, of course, am up early, as I don’t ever really sleep.  I have been able to explore the house and grounds with my cup of coffee and camera in these early morning hours.

I am feeling love and peace and calm as I sit here and wait for the girls to wake up and enjoy the cinnamon rolls that just came out of the oven.  They smell so good that I may not be able to keep out of them.   No one will notice one missing. 😊

 

 

She’s not difficult. She’s just protective of her peace.

When a submissive’s been through enough hurt, she doesn’t hand over trust easily.
She studies your tone.
She pays attention to how you react when she’s vulnerable.
She notices the difference between control and care.

Don’t call her guarded and then give her more reasons to be.
Show her what safety feels like.

When she sees consistency, her walls start to lower on their own.
When she feels peace, obedience stops feeling like risk.

That’s when the real dynamic begins.
Not when she submits, but when she finally feels safe enough to.

Mr & Mrs Hellhound

As I read and work on healing from my recent release from a dynamic, I am coming across terms that I haven’t seen before.  Fawning would be one of them.  Maybe it’s just a revamped name for old issues to draw attention to it, but it caught my eye.    

 

 

 

Not every Dominant will understand every type of submission — and that’s okay.

Brats. Service subs. Littles. Pets. Rope bunnies. Caregivers. Masochists. Obedience-focused subs. Sensual submissives. The list goes on.

Each one speaks a different dialect of the same language.
And if you don’t speak that dialect — it’s okay to say so.

What’s not okay is pretending you do…
Or misinterpreting someone’s submission as something it’s not.

A brat teasing you isn’t being “disrespectful.”
A service sub asking for structure isn’t being “needy.”
A little looking for regulation isn’t “trying to be a child.”
They’re all just speaking in the way they know how to connect.

But if you don’t understand that way — and they don’t explain it clearly — wires get crossed.
And suddenly someone feels rejected, unsafe, or shut down without meaning to be.

That’s why communication matters more than chemistry.

Before you label someone “too much,” “too silly,” “too cold,” or “too needy”… ask:
“Is this a type of submission I don’t understand yet?”

And if it is — say so.
You’re not required to understand every kink dynamic.
You are responsible for how you respond when it doesn’t match your own.

Respect starts with this:
“I may not understand your submission style, but I won’t shame you for it.”

And if you’re the one being misunderstood?
It’s okay to say:
“This is the kind of dynamic I thrive in. If that doesn’t fit you, I’d rather know now.”

That’s not rejection. That’s compatibility.

And honoring that is how we protect the lifestyle and the people in it.

Mr and Mrs Hellbound.  

sharing my morning reading   

 

Today I will be the cute lil devil that AI says I am.  

Happy Halloween!

 

Sometimes it looks like not being overwhelmed with the need to respond to every message. It even looks like blocking and deleting, if need be.  Silence is also a clear message in itself 

 

                          OR

 

 

Both can be cathartic

Which would you choose?

(the first one made me giggle)