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The Inner Workings of A Serial Submissive

1 year ago. December 30, 2022 at 10:49 PM

When I was beginning in this lifestyle I had no idea that subs were the ones with the power and control and that we give our gift to a worthy Dominant.  I never asked questions, for fear of being rejected or deemed too difficult. Now I know that is so unwise as it is unsafe.   I ran across this article and thought that I would share it with others who might be new and not know that it’s not only good to ask questions, but their right.

 

sexycurves​(sub female) - Love this 😊 thanks for sharing
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - I hope others can get as much out of it as I did.
1 year ago
naughtiangel​(sub female){Taken} - Of course you can ask questions. Always ask questions, never stop. The day you stop asking questions is the day the interest is running out. Keep the communication going. 💞💞💞
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - I do tend to be very inquisitive. 😁
1 year ago
naughtiangel​(sub female){Taken} - I know!! And you know I'm ALWAYS asking questions 🤣
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - May get us into trouble one of these days. lol
1 year ago
naughtiangel​(sub female){Taken} - A little trouble can be fun!!
1 year ago
Sir Andrew USA​(dom male) - This was a great read.

IMO - A good Dom/Domme will understand that the only thing they have is an "appearance" of control. I can think I am "taking control" but without it being offered freely, I will grasp for it and clench only vapor.

Questions are the key - to the collar, the leash, the cage ... I need to ensure my sub's safety - both actual and perceived. If I cannot deliver on their safety, they will not trust me, my "rules", my desires. Without their questions I cannot judge/guage how well or poorly I am leading/experiencing my sub. Without questions I cannot provide the attention my sub needs to be filled full.

Without questions; I cannot learn.

Thank you for posting this. I, for one, appreciate it!

Happy New Year All!
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - Thank you for your input. It is always good to hear other opinions and views. That is how we learn. Happy New Year to you as well!
1 year ago
Master13​(dom male){MajesticLy} - Questions are always good. It helps with communications. Same as what SA said above the questions help the dom. I truly believe neither the sub nor the Dom has the full control. It's both working together ans sharing their roles
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - I agree that it is both that share the control and responsibility. Thank you for your input. 💖
1 year ago
Master13​(dom male){MajesticLy} - You know you will always have my support and input anytime you ask a question. I and your cage friends are always here.
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - You are such a wonderful constant in my life. Thank you 😘
1 year ago
Master13​(dom male){MajesticLy} - Yeppers - I am constantly your pervert 😈😈😈
1 year ago
Satindragon{Not Lookin} - Great article. Thank you for sharing. Great to read the comments of others as well.
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - I am happy that you enjoyed it.
1 year ago
Lilkitten​(sub female){Deepwater} - Great article and I hope all subs (and Doms) read it and take it to heart. We should always continue to ask questions, even in a long term relationship, as people change and develop, their thoughts and feelings about things may change as well. I’ve watched you grow so much on your path as a submissive. Very proud of you. ❤️❤️
1 year ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - Thank you. You have been there along the way to help me form my own questions and see that it’s good to do so. 😘
1 year ago
Sir​(dom male){taken} - I concur. Great questions every a Dom should have aswered prior to them having to be asked.
1 year ago

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