It is quite simple really, a good Dominant is someone who possesses the very qualities we would ascribe to a “good person”: kindness, consideration, politeness, empathy, compassion.
A good Dom has a strong sense of ethics, honesty and is respectful of others regardless of their position in life. A person who masquerades behind these qualities, usually is discovered at some point as the fraud they are, hopefully with the least amount of devastation left in their wake.
To be a good Dominant takes more than a crop, a stern look or demands.
The basic foundation is Trust.
Without trust, there is nothing of substance. No substance to the dynamic nor the person.
It is these qualities, more than anything else, that define a person’s character and personality. They are the essential skills that determine how good a person is liable to be in any part of their life, be it their career, their home life – or being Dominant.
While some components of domination is very much a skill, true Dominants tend to show a willingness to learn, to grow and to understand. They are on a journey as much as any submissive.
A good Dom takes the time and effort to learn and grow as a person, which in turn, naturally flows into their dominance.
If one wants to gain the respect of peers and the acceptance of submissives, then one should take the time to look within themselves. Be honest with themselves and others.
I have met both, good and true Doms, and sadly, some frauds. It is the true and good Doms that have had the most significant influence in my thoughts. Their genuineness and truth shines through above all others.
Although I have been fooled once or twice (mainly because I always assume people are acting with integrity) the thing I've learned most from these ones, is they are not worth any of my time or effort.
My Daddy is one of the most genuine, honest and trustworthy people I know, both in our D/s life and in our life as a couple.
He faced a tribunal of the closest people in my life, who pay attention to EVERYTHING! His true self, His sincerity and light has shone through, and continues to every day with them.
Every day He tells me, and more importantly, SHOWS me in his actions. His actions are what help me escape the bricks I laid to build my fortress.
Our honesty and integrity are the bricks of our foundation. This, is how he shows me how much he loves, cherishes and respects me. He respects me enough to be completely honest with every facet of Him, even when it's difficult.
He does this, so I can feel safe and secure in Him, in US, to show Him how much I love Him and be completely open with Him. He sees all of me. There is nothing I hold back because I know I can trust being completely vulnerable with Him without harm to my heart.
That's what a good and true Dominant is. He IS His submissive's safest place.
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