You talk the good talk ... BUT, that's all it is .. talk. You say all the right things .. until the challenging waves come. And they do come ... in every relationship. When they do, if the behaviour of your Dom or sub doesn't match the words they speak ... my advice .. turn around and run!
Whether Dom or Sub, in time, the true colours of the person you are, is revealed. For this blog I speak of Doms.
You discuss expectations, limits, wants and needs with each other. You appear to be understanding and respectful of all discussed. But, at the first sight of unsure waters, your actions are to jump ship, looking for a new ship to set sail with.
I've said it before in blogs about what makes a good Dom. To be a good Dom, you must FIRST be a good MAN.
A good MAN has a strong sense of ethics, honesty and is respectful in their behaviours with others. MOST especially with their subs.
To be a good Dominant takes more than a crop, a stern look or demands.
The basic foundation is TRUST.
Without trust, there is nothing of substance. No substance to the dynamic nor the person.
It is these qualities, more than anything else, that define a person’s character and personality. They are the essential skills that determine how good a person is liable to be as a Dominant.
While some components of domination is very much a skill, true Dominants tend to show a willingness to learn, to grow and to understand. They are on a journey as much as any submissive.
A good Dom takes the time and effort to learn and grow as a person, which in turn, naturally flows into their dominance.
If you want to be a true and good Dom, then be one that a sub can TRUST in your words. BE her safe place.
Look within yourself. Be honest with yourself and others.
If you're a person (Dom or sub) who have jumped ship at first sight of unsure waters .. perhaps it's time to stay on land and learn from your experiences and change the behaviors ... instead of leaving a trail of flotsam and jetsam in your wake.
I am one of the lucky ones ... my Daddy IS my safe place and the One I can trust implicitly.
It breaks my heart to watch friends go through the heartache of learning they can't trust the person talking the talk and that they've jumped ship. 😔
TRUST ... takes the longest to build .. but only seconds to destroy
