Ginger's Nest

Azure Kitsune​(sub female) - Sometimes you reflect about it alone and see what is happening in your own life separate them your Dom. If it is a struggle that you see as separate from the dynamic then it would be appropriate to share that with them. If it is the dynamic itself, I think having a good sitdown and discussing what you feel and having them know can open up why you feel that way.

I sometimes just want to curl up and be alone, but those are the times I speak up and say that. If there is a need or even a want that is causing this then speak to them about it. They deserve to know why you feel that way.

I have used a lot of words only to say that everything a person feels is valid. I do not believe we can control how we feel, just our willingness to share, overcome, and react to those feelings.

Bunnie - I’m curious as to under what circumstances this arises for you? When you say [when] “he tries to be dommy with me,” what do you mean? With a little more digging and clarification perhaps we may be able to unravel it a bit more to see what’s there.

All3n​(dom male) - As a friend, I'd suggest that you have a conversation with him. So that both of you can continue to move in the same direction.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) - I would also do some reflection and have a conversation with yourself about what it means to you to be a submissive. How important is it to you? Are you telling yourself you could submit to someone else but not to him--or is it something in you that is making you not want to submit at all? Is it something that he is doing? You need to clarify for yourself where these feelings are coming from. If you are not feeling submissive at all, then there is nothing he will be able to do to make you submit. The more domly he acts, the more you will defy him and resent the dynamic.

If being a submissive is really what you want and where your heart lies, then you need to ask yourself if the problem is something he is doing or simply that you haven't humbled yourself to your chosen role. This is not to say there is anything wrong with you. There are plenty of lifestyle submissives who go through seasons in their lives where they don't want to submit anymore and take a break from it. Sometimes they do this within the context of the same relationship with the same dominant and eventually work it out--or not. It's all a question of where you are at in your journey, your relationship with your own submission, and the interaction between you and your dominant. I hope that helps.