The lovely Ms Poppet posted recently about the frequency of scenes, etc, and it brought me back to my ponderance of this subject - something that has always intrigued me. So I thought I would share my blatherings . . .
What causes some people to obtain sexual gratification from experiencing pain?
(I dont attach a label to myself, Dom/sub/switch, etc - but I can say this, ive been on both sides of the rope.)
I was talking recently with a dear friend and explaining how the "heightening of desire" rises, along with tollerance - or should I say vice-versa.
If im not "in the mood" and someone were to strike me with a _______, I would say "ouch, that hurt, stop it - cant you see im trying to change this flat tire?" If however, I AM in the mood, I would say "do that again while I change this flat tire".
What happens in the brain?
If said person were to continue to strike me while I wasnt in the mood, could they cause the brain switch to flip? I know the reverse is possible - "in the mood" and seemingly without cause, slip out of it.
What is the driving factor that dictates this?
How often does your Dom/Domme hit the right level of desired pain? And in the right way, in the right place/s - at the right time?
How do you feel beforehand? After?
If it goes well, or doesnt.
Could a person be conditioned to enjoy a different type of pain than their normal desires?
could a person be conditioned to like pain when they previously didnt? (I dont think the reverse is possible)
There are those who enjoy a little bit of pain once in awhile, and there are those who take things a bit further - and there are those, the giving and/or recieving is a requirement to function at all.
There have been many times in my life where someone would come up to me and say "omg, what did you do? Youre bleeding" - and I was completely unaware, didnt feel it when it happened - or at least to the extent that it did. How much more does something hurt simply because you saw it?
I watched a documentary about the "nocebo effect" - perceived pain that wasnt actually there. Fascinating stuff. What the human mind does with pain.
Anyway, like I said - blatherings
Open for discussion, should anyone be
"in the mood" ?