*My "Fringe" series is dedicated to to the less known, misunderstood, and often negatively perceived, forms of male submission. I am looking to inform and educate through my own experience, and to defend and support such styles of play. To understand my motivation, please read my prequel post.*
MEN MAKE THE BEST LITTLES!
Yes, it is true. I can share that confidently from personal experience.
Here is why I love male littles.
*They are so adorable I can't even stand it.
*They love to be snuggled, cuddled and touched.
*They are perfectly happy just being in your presence and being close to you.
*Somewhat dependant on regression age, they can be playful and fun or fully content with quiet and peaceful environments.
*Fiercely loyal, sweet and kind
There is more that I can add here but in the interest if generalizing, I will leave it at that.
One of the most egregious double standards in BDSM might be that women littles are cute and adorable yet male littles are mocked, harassed, chastised and shamed into silence for their fetish. Of course, very few of us will have zero experice with shaming but male littles seem to make particular targets for such activity, which is really unfortunate. Generally speaking, the personality types that are attracted to age play can be somewhat fragile souls that need love, attention, support and a caring environment. Judgement and negativity can be harmful to anyone but can also be particularly destructive to a little.
I will also add that there are few support groups or safe places for male littles. I once met a male little who only played online due to a medical condition. He shared with me the experience of joining more than one online group only to be expelled due to an unspoken expectation that participants would be female. This is so wrong I can't even get my brain around it. Gender exclusive groups are already an issue for me but if you have to have a gender specific group, it is your responsibility to be crystal clear in your standards for this exact reason. Male littles deserve a place to be little, interact others and find the suport network they need without being poisoned by ignorance.
AB/DLs
For those unfamiliar with the acronym, Adult Baby/Diaper Lover (the rest of this post will focus on this form of play. That is the extent of my warning should you need one).
I once had a DL explain to me that ABs and DLs should really be 2 different forms of play and not packaged together because they really are quite different. Here is my attempt at explaining.
Adult Babies are age players but age regress to infancy. I leave it to each individual to negotiate their needs but you could guess what this generally includes.
Diaper Lovers are not necessarily age players. I have met DLs that are totally normal, kink-centric submissives. I'll also share that this is much more popular than you think. Popular enough for successful, discreet storefront business, which is a resent realization of my own. One may assume that a DL has a fetish for wetting/soiling, which is also inaccurate. Perhaps that may be the case for some but isn't necessarily inherant for a DL. Some may wear them 24/7 with others only indulging occasionally. One interesting thing I have learned about DLs is how diapers become fetishized. For example, many are attracted to them because of the psychological and physical comfort they offer. As someone with a background in psychology, I find this to be very similar to the attachment one might have to any other comfort object, such as a toy or blanket from childhood. Second, interestingly, a diaper fetish often requires very particular needs of the diaper its self. For many, it needs to have a particular feel and make a particular sound. This really is no different than any other clothing fetish. I have heard may people describe the need for a feel, smell or sound out of a particular garment, leather or latex for example. All that said, the attraction to diapers is one of comfort and sensory attraction, and at the core, how different is that really from many other fetishes in BDSM.
I don't pretend to be an expert on this material but my expereince has taught me that there is so much more to this than what people assume at face value. Do not judge if someone happens to be brave enough to share that they are a little, age playet or an AB/DL particularly if they are male.
