I am going to just lay this out there... I sometimes struggle with this piece of the D/s process. Interviewing, I mean. I really enjoy the energy of new relationships, friend or D/s, but the ups and downs of talking with a potential Dominant can take their toll. The Interviewing can sometimes feel burdensome. Am I right?
That elation I feel when I'm messaging a potential Him is heady. The mild crashing that comes from ghosting behavior, or finding out we're incompatible gets old fast. The higher you are, the farther you'll need to travel back down to earth. Sometimes the landings are rough, and a few tears are needed. Having interviewed and been interviewed a number of times over the years sometimes causes a little dread. Interviewing can also carry some fear over the next potential Dominant; what if He turns out to be a narcissist or a dishonest man? What if I'm really into Him, but He doesn't feel the same? You probably know what I'm saying! For me, I need to be careful about how I look at the process so that I can safely chart my emotional waters. This way of thinking creates peace in my mind... intentional thinking changes my view of the process in general. I might be disappointed that someone I'm interested in doesn't feel the same, but intentional thinking creates paths to acceptance and compassion. In the bigger picture, the Dominants that pass me by are a small part of my journey.
I've found that I 'date' in spurts. It's hard to find a local, and single man in my area. Add in the need for Him to be Dominant, and the pool dries up even more. Although personal feelings can get stepped on when a man rejects me, the rejection isn't solely about me. They have their reasons, and I have my own. We all take risks by putting ourselves into the abyss known as Dating... we're not alone with this process. That, my friend, is a gift.
I can get tired during my search, but the connection I seek is seeking me just as fervently. Being able to reach out across states and oceans instantaneously is a gift too. I choose to view failed interviews as a gift even if it feels like a curse. My life is better because I am intentional about my thinking.
So... those are a few thoughts I had roaming around in my head. Thanks for reading this, and being part of the process!
Blessings to you, my Tribe!!!