Well today I was having an awesome day that is until some lady flipped out at me in the waiting room for my oldest daughter's therapy. I don't handle being yelled at well. Never have. My automatic response is to cry and hide. I couldn't do that with my daughter there.
I'm sure some of you might be wondering what happened that caused a complete and total stranger I have NEVER even seen before (there every Thursday) to flip out on me? Well let me just say... I was helping my daughter with her homework. She has ADHD and if we don't do homework as soon as we get done school it never gets done. In this case means doing it in the therapy waiting room. Mind you we do homework there every single Thursday and have never had a single problem!
I was calling her name a lot to get her attention back to her homework today (as I do every single day). I wasn't yelling, wasn't screaming, not even a raised voice. Just a simple *insert name here* pay attention. This women suddenly turns and snaps at me if we can do put it away I'm giving her anxiety with how I'm treating my daughter. I said no we cannot as we have another appointment immediately after. The women than started to yell at me saying she can't believe how I was treating my child and it was crazy. There are rules and I need to follow them (the list she was pointing out said no hitting others mind you.)
I asked her to mind her own business and turned back to my child. Omg that was a mistake! A big one! She than starts getting loud with me that I'm in a public place and I brought her into this and it's my fault that this is happening. I told her once again to just leave me alone and mind her own business. She keeps going off than turned and said something along the lines of "if this is how homework is I can't imagine how horrible her life must be."
By this point the front office and several therapists are coming in to see what's going on. The scheduling therapist (who is also there every Thursday with me) asked if everything was okay looking pointedly at me. At this point I was near tears telling the lady how rude and mean she was and just to leave me alone. I should also point out that at this point I am yelling begging her to just leave me be. So I turn and tell the scheduler that she won't leave me alone. That all we are trying to do is our homework and she just won't stop! This lady turns out and says straight to my daughter "it's a no wonder your child is in therapy just look at you." I told the lady that she was causing my anxiety to rise and she needed to stop. At that point my child bursts into tears and I turned to my child trying to comfort her. The women leaves screaming and yelling that I need to learn to follow the rules and that I am a terrible mother. I was there with tears streaming down my face.
The front office asked if we were okay as I comforting my child and I kinda just nodded. They brought us out water and things to try and help. That's when I started texting Him and started to work on calming myself down. (Thank you!!!) We finished our homework with no more fuss.
It just amazes me how cruel some people can be. Why would you cause a seen in front of a child AT A THERAPIST OFFICE?! Than once the child is in tears say more mean things before storming off? Why do that. It's just cruel and plain mean. I even asked my child afterwards if I was being loud or mean or anything that lady was saying and she told me no I was just getting her attention. I was assured that we will never run into her again at the office. That she was only there as a reschedule for another therapist. And honestly if it was that big of a deal start of the conversation nicely. Ask us if we can keep it down a little bit more. Don't immediately start with an attitude making demands from me or my child because I will say no. It's who I am.
I also just wanted to say another Thank you to Him. He was a huge help through all of this while it was happening and it helped me a lot. Got my shaking to stop and my breathing to start again.
Always, always, always be kind to one another.
