What BDSM means to me:
This is a term that so many see as taboo and "weird". Bondage, Dicipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism. The words that "describe" what BDSM is, but not what it can mean.
For me it means something different than most people could even believe or think it would. Being in this lifestyle, and being submissive, is freedom: freedom to be me. Freedom to allow someone else to take control over certain aspects of my life, as to eliminate stress and increase my happiness, so that I can better take care of my children and my Dominate. The freedom to explore my own sexuality with someone I trust to keep me safe and never to shame me for anything I'd want to explore. The freedom to have that certainty of communication between myself and my Dominate in such a way that I won't have to worry about him being angry at me for being honest or worry about cheating. I do have all the same rights and responsibilities that I would have in a regular relationship. This lifestyle makes me feel like a coveted princess that is loved, protected, listened to, charished, and taken care of. And yet, I still have my own personality. I'm NOT a robot. I am free to say no if I wish. I CHOOSE to be there for my Dominates desires for the home and himself. This is a life that I choose and I love it! Everyone has a dominate, submissive, or even switch capabilities. Most see it in a regular relationship and say "they wear the pants in that relationship." It's that same way with me, except it's more intense and important to us for these bonderies. Every BDSM relationship is different: some in the bedroom, some 50/50, and some(like me) 24/7. And for me?........
I WAS BORN THIS WAY!!!!!!!!