In a real life relationship. So far so good. I see and feel signs of his dominant nature but not to the extent yet that I’d like for us to enjoy this dynamic. I’m curious about how the day-to-day real life Dom/sub relationship aspects carrying over into the sexual relationship; and I’m really becoming more interested in the service aspect of submission. Is there anywhere that would help me learn more re: service submission ?
I thought it would be a partner helping me surface my desires as a sub. Interestingly, my service desires seem to be developing more honestly and intensely by seeing and feeling his dominance surface. It is a blissful feeling. 🌸
I’m on the verge of embarking on a new monogamous relationship with a wonderful man in real life. I see and feel dominance traits in him. Here’s hoping my ques to him for my submissive needs are not pressure to him.
I feel I have learned much from others’ blogs and feel secure enough to ask something on my own. 1. Shelf Life. Does the intensity of this type of relationship/dynamic carry an inherently short shelf life? 2. Timing. Does the intensity require more of a time commitment to continue to grow together? 3. Does wondering the above render me a “fraidy cat” NorthernKitten or a brat or needy or afraid of commitment?
maybe because it’s March but golly I feel wilder than a March hare today.
It's a fine, thin line between ecstasy and doom making living there with precision balance a rush and loving there erotic. With connection and communication, unlocking and gifting away that control is a deep trust and intense release. This is what I am learning.