It should go without saying that trust is paramount in this lifestyle. But don’t be naive... so is common sense and self preservation. You have GOT to be your own advocate. You have got to take responsibility for your own safety and actions. Sure they sounded like they knew what they were doing... of course they sounded sincere when the said “I’ll never show those pictures to someone else without your permission”. But, before you send them that picture or video, or account info... ask yourself this... if you decide you have made a mistake a week, a month, a year from now... are you willing to bet your life that this person won’t use that info to force you to stay with them and be compliant to their desires even to the point of forcing you to step past your hard limits or causing you physical harm? Yeah, it’s incredible when you find that person you want to submit to, but it’s a nightmare when you discover it’s a huge mistake and they have access to your financial accounts, emails, family members, work, church, etc. You have GOT to take your time. You have got to get to know that person better than you have known anyone and even then you could still find yourself in this situation.
If you are in this situation or something similar, there are ways out. Change your account Info, contact the police, talk to your family members and put the best spin on it you can... it’s not going to be easy. There’s no guarantee that this person isn’t going to follow through on the threat. But this situation will only get worse and worse. My personal advice is to stop it as soon as possible to mitigate the damage. The longer you allow it the more there will be to threaten you with. Talk to your subbie friends (if you’ve been allowed to keep them) if not... reach out to them again and explain the situation to them, most will understand and help however they can. Get as much support as you can and do what you have to do before it’s gone so far you feel like there’s no way out. There’s ALWAYS a way out.
PappaBear
