WTF?

  Having done this almost sixty times now I do not see what the big deal is. Just another year older and another one down with many regrets. Still, I know who my friends are, and I have met a few more than I had. I find myself stronger and weaker than when I started. By the end of this new year, I will find myself single again and with my, bachelor's in management and starting my dream company. what will happen between the first and last day of this year must come minute by minute and day by day. As we so want to see the future we cannot. So, till the last day I hope to see you often safe and happy. 

  Tal my friends 

  I ask that on this day we not forget those who will not be home. The firefighter who will be working a straight 3-day shift. The nurses' and doctors who will be tending to those who may not make it home ever again. The military forces who will be spending this day on ship in the air or in a sleeping bag in another country making safer for us to spend time with our own families. Let's not forget those who wear many different colors other than blue who make living in our homes safer because they are guarding the night to let us sleep easier. Those who wait for the call for help to rush to the aid of those whose life will be held in their hands. Last but not least send a small prayer for those with no home who have no family and few friends but still find the courage to face a new day. 

  Last but never least to those whose real names we may not know but still we smile when we see them. Those who hide behind screens and brighten our lives and make us smile. To you most of all I wish you a very merry day with lots of hope and joy. 

                                                                              Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night.

  I was in chat and a dom came in bitching about his ex-sub was abused by another dom. When asked what and how it happened he said his ex had called him to say a dom had abused her and told him his name and what had happened. Now I am calling out someone who needs to be called out but I try to get both sides first. I do not know the sub but know the dom. His side is she wanted more that what he was giving and so they got on the phone and he gave her more. I find out now they are several thousand mile apart in two different countries and have never met in person. She tells him it was more than she wanted and hangs up then tells the ex all about how she was abused. Ex gets on Cage and starts a mess. Tells staff my friend who defended the other dom was saying the abuse was ok and she got e-mails about it. 

  Now what she said was "If she did not want it why didn't she just hang up?" and it was talked about how she knew the other dom and how he would never do anything like that. This is how she OK'ed the abuse.

  If you ask for more and get it is that abuse? Where do we cross a line from kink to abuse? If you are being abused over the phone or web why do you keep listening or reading? There is a button that lets you cut it off and walk away. Why not use it? You have the ability to walk away why don't you use it? Or can it be she needed to have something to bitch about to the ex and see if her still cared for her? We will never know.

  To the staff get your facts straight be fore you start bitching at anyone. Or you can start watching chat and keep an eye on who is doing what before someone start bitching about you and has you site pulled down for letting shit like this happen. 

  Before you ask yes at one time I had a life and I am to old not to speak my mind to anyone about any thing. Wrong is wrong and if she thinks she was abused she should live with an asshole stepfather for two years and see what abuse is. Or better yet talk to the subs who have been abused and get to know the power your fingers have to shut it down. 

  What happens in RL should stay in RL and not be brought into chat unless the are real reasons for it. You have a problem lets talk it out and not get half the facts before telling someone else to "shut up your wrong".. Oh and we have screen shots to back up what was said to who and when. My first time here and this is what I talk about wow I need a life.