Someone else’s hurt...
I had a conversation today that really made me stop and think about how I support someone. I had to really listen to the reason this person was hurting and understand that this persons hurt is theirs...and even though it’s not the way I hurt or for reasons I would feel hurt...it’s still a hurt for them.
I had to really examine the way I have been supporting this person through the hurt that they were feeling. And to be honest I never really understood until today that even though if it were my situation I would have handled it differently or been over the issues long ago...none of that matters if I really want this person to know I am here to support them through anything.
I can’t not be supportive or dismissive of the fact that they are hurting just because it’s not how I would feel or how I would respond. It doesn’t mean how I would do it or feel is better or worse...it’s the simple fact that everyone is different and the way they handle or interpret things are going to be different too.
As people when you love someone and you want to continue being in this persons life and truly help them...just understand what support means to that person. Sometimes it’s just being there...no words or actions...just be there. Maybe it’s to listen...and listen only. Maybe it’s to give advise...but remember...their decisions are theirs...and only theirs.
I want to be that supportive...non judgmental...reliable person those that I care for can count on.
Until tomorrow...
