Firecracker Diaries - A combination of stories, random thoughts and an appreciation log of life with Daddy

acquiesced​(sub male) - I have my own sub-category, pardon the expression. Switched. Once. Never going back.

FullCanadian​(switch male)​{MissB} - It's complicated. Your definition only speaks to scenes and not to romantic or gendered energy and is in my mind a bit superficial.

For me, its entirely partner dependent and it takes a long time to open up and explore.

Once I trust and bond with someone, how and when I switch is very fluid and spur of the moment, always in concert with the energy of my partner.

Laylamini​(dom female) - I switch depending on my partner. I prefer to be a top/dominant person, but finding a true submissive that vibes with my style of BDSM is tough...so most of the time I end up being a sub lol.

When in a new relationship, I always ask my partners about their non-vanilla sexual preferences (most of the time the men prefer to be dominant, while the women I've been with typically submit). If someone is too shy to tell me their preferences, I'll see how they respond to certain things when we're in bed (light choking, dirty talk, etc...). I once dated this really shy guy who just couldn't bring up his sexual preferences without panicking, so one day I just dressed in a latex body suit and asked him to be open minded. He was fucking floored and even cried after the scene because he was so happy. He became a devoted sub after that. Sometimes you just gotta wing it and see how your partner responds to dominant or submissive behaviors ?