Let's talk about honesty. There has become a sad trend in the community of people on both sides not being truthful. It hurts to see because honesty is the best policy. The truth releases you from worry and regret.
This lifestyle is all about trust, honesty, respect and communication. Without those what do we actually have here? I don't know about you but I would never play with or date someone who did not exude those values in every aspect of life.
Is there somewhere it said to start ignoring those? It leaves me scratching my head at times. BDSM is incredibly intimate and requires a lot of vulnerability. One's trust is not to be taken advantage of.
What happened that makes dishonesty so common? Is it because of ego or maybe a fear based response?
If so it's time to do some work and learn to love and accept yourself before looking for a partner. Embrace your flaws and mistakes from the past. Learn from them in order to become a better version of you.
This especially goes for us Dominants. How can we be trusted with a power exchange if we have not learned to control ourselves first? Our real job/goal as a Dom is to help our sub become the best/most outstanding version of themselves. We have to master oursleves first.
When you realize someone is lying to you how do you handle it? For me it depends on the person or I should say how long I've known them. If it is a good friend I'll give them an opportunity to explain. People deserve a second chance because every one of us has been given one at some point.
The next time you catch yourself typing a message or saying something you know is not the truth. Just be honest. Yes, it is scary in the moment, maybe even painful but own up to the truth. Let it out because it always comes to the surface.
The truth will always set you free. Be honest. Have integrity. Show respect to yourself and others with your actions and words.
-Zach
