we as a community share constant dialogue about O/our relationships being built on trust. So we look for someone we can totally "trust" therefore leaving all of us or most of us open to predators hidden within our numbers.
Predators are not just strangers. They can sometimes be someone that seems very respectable here in the community. We look at a certain chatter and think....they are sooo nice to me. they really seem to care about me.
eventually that person
makes you feel special
make you feel that you are loved
takes advantage of your emotional neediness
maybe your isolation for whatever reason
targets your lower self esteem or breaks it down
they gain your trust by getting to know your needs, wants and kinks and figures out easily how to fill them. this person is very smooth - very disciplined as they push and poke at you without revealing too much about themself.
they are stealth like a spy
Gifts, affection, attention all further reinforces a special connection you will soon grow to feel with them
by meeting (special trips) you are drawn deeper into their web with them
Soon there is sufficient dependence and trust ....they use sexual stimulation to reinforce the sexuality of the relationship.
the predator is able to shape your sexual preferences and will manipulate what you find exciting and therefore seek to deepen the relationship.
then you become entangled with them...and if you mis-step...threats to end the relationship which will in turn end the emotional attention and the gifts and special outings bring fear. you will fear that the end of the relationship will render you unwanted.
yes we all talk endlessly about that special someone to trust and give yourself to
we dont realize the danger we place ourselves in.
serious emotional abuse can happen through grooming.
grooming....or training.....think about it
