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The reflections of a Dominant seeking a philosophically compatible partner for stimulations day after day.
4 years ago. February 21, 2020 at 6:22 PM

It's my opinion that most want to decide whether online or face to face is right for them.. . .

 

I think it is a false choice they are trying to make.  Let's consider our favorite singer. . . . would you prefer to see in an actual concert, or perhaps listen to a recording?   Since millions do both, why not realize there is pleasure in both.

 

We watch movies and enjoy. . . and think about the actress in a stage play. . . written and directed by others. . . she enjoys performing and her audience enjoys watching. . .

 

Then there are the many great athletes that in time have to stop the actual play and continue to enjoy their sport as they coach.

 

So, by all means enjoy a face to face BDSM encounter. . . we can agree they bring a special joy and pleasure. . . 

 

I want you to think, however, that you can have considerable pleasures in online activity as well. . . stimulation can be very real. . . restraint can take place. . . yes locking in a cage for some length is possible with online instructions using an ice lock. . .

 

Creative, innovative, erotic instructions can produce those moments you wish for. . . .

 

Be greedy, don't decide which is for you. . . .don't make your choice "which one" but rather "both".

 

Bunnie - I have observed this argument for quite some time now.

In all honesty, I think the majority don’t have an issue with the concept of online itself... but probably more what is usually the reasoning behind someone seeking online-only.

More commonly than not... it is because they’re seeking something dishonestly behind the back of a spouse/partner. This is in no way anything to do with bdsm as many of us know it... considering trust and honesty is the foundation.

So I think if it was simply called what it actually is... people seeking a bit of kinky fun... rather than trying to pass it off as something it’s clearly not... there would be less confusion.
4 years ago
venia​(sub female){notlooking} - I wholeheartedly agree.
4 years ago
Satindragon{Not Lookin} - Good point Bunnie!
4 years ago
Pirate Queen - I honestly don’t know how any of this would work in an “online” situation... it seems rather strange to me.
4 years ago
LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Kintsugi} - we live in a digital age and thus to me it seems natural that this lifestyle would equally change to fit it. I mean the brain is (to me and I know many others) required to be turned on so in that sense whether you’re in person or online is irrelevant. as xwillowx said it isn’t JUST the physical for many of us, it is the proper mental relationship between a Dom and sub that we seek.
4 years ago
Curlyniccia{Protected} - What if online is all that can be managed at that time? That a connection is built between two people on opposite sides of the world. That neither have other commitments apart from lives built in two different places - jobs, children, work.
That a connection has happened.
Neither can move to be with the other.
Should they give up what they have or make the best of what they have?
I believe each relationships have their own merits.
You can be dishonest even when you meet face to face (conceal a partner).
The fact is either or any relationship has to be built on trust, honesty and truth. Without those a relationship will not survive x
4 years ago

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