It's my opinion that most want to decide whether online or face to face is right for them.. . .
I think it is a false choice they are trying to make. Let's consider our favorite singer. . . . would you prefer to see in an actual concert, or perhaps listen to a recording? Since millions do both, why not realize there is pleasure in both.
We watch movies and enjoy. . . and think about the actress in a stage play. . . written and directed by others. . . she enjoys performing and her audience enjoys watching. . .
Then there are the many great athletes that in time have to stop the actual play and continue to enjoy their sport as they coach.
So, by all means enjoy a face to face BDSM encounter. . . we can agree they bring a special joy and pleasure. . .
I want you to think, however, that you can have considerable pleasures in online activity as well. . . stimulation can be very real. . . restraint can take place. . . yes locking in a cage for some length is possible with online instructions using an ice lock. . .
Creative, innovative, erotic instructions can produce those moments you wish for. . . .
Be greedy, don't decide which is for you. . . .don't make your choice "which one" but rather "both".