I feel a strong urge to write this after a few conversation I had with my sub recently. So, its time for another installment of my blog. Stay awhile and listen.
The art of conversation seems to be a lost art in recent years. I have seen this on both sides, from "Dom's" and "Sub's". This lifestyle we have all chosen or been called to is built on trust and understanding. If there is no trust then there can be nothing more than physical pleasure. Any true Dom or Alpha male knows that physical pleasure is only a small piece of what we seek. Personally, physical pleasure is the last one the list because it is the easiest to be taught to any sub. Mental and Emotional domination are the hardest to obtain, easiest to destroy, but the most rewarding when given completely.
Now you may be asking, "Kalten we know this but how does that have anything to do with the art of conversation?" Well my good friends, here is how. If I don't know trivial things such as favorite foods or color then how can anyone give me the deeper guarded secrets of fear and hope? Anyone who is looking for a long lasting relationship will know that starting a conversation about life will lead to more then asking if a sub wants you to dominate them. How do I know this you might ask and quite frankly I did the same thing starting out. This isn't from a hallmark card but personal experience. Holding a conversation is the hardest part of any relationship or friendship.
A few tips for my fellow brothers and sisters that will help them in their quest to find eternal happiness:
- Do not start out thinking someone will submit to you. They don't know you and therefore will not trust you with that power.
- This is not a quick process. Do not think talking for a week means you get to see everything.
- For the love of goddess, stop sending dick pic's. The penis does not photography well and should be given in person not through text.
- Be respectful. He/She may be a sub but as stated before, they have all the power to choose to stay.
- Learn about life moments. Learn about things that shaped them into who they are today. Learn about everything you can that does not relate to sex.
- Finally, do not talk to people thinking they owe you anything. I challenge everyone to talk to someone knowing nothing will happen. Make friends.
If you are truly looking for lasting paradise with a sub by your side then you need to remember they are human just like you. Treat them as such and get to know them flaws and all. If you are looking for just hook-ups, the local bar or club will be a better place then here. Now obviously this blog does not pertain to in the most part to those looking for online relationships. Use your head and that doesn't mean the one between your legs. If you do this then your chances of finding the right person to complete you will increase.
How do I know you might ask? Well that is simple, I found my sub and we started talking about history in the beginning. Now if we don't talk it feels like part of me is missing and I will move heaven and earth to make sure that never happens again.
Hope everyone who reads this learns something from it or reaffirms your own thoughts. I will be posting a special blog tomorrow in honor of Memorial day here in the United States. As an Army Veteran, its one of the few days a year that has deep meaning for me.
Till next time, stay safe and happy hunting.
