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4 years ago. July 2, 2019 at 6:12 PM

Let me begin with saying I respect everyone's dynamic on here. What I want to know is when is okay to break protocol of contacting a taken sub? 

 

The reason I ask....some time back, I was asked to be a Dom to a sub, I accepted prematurely and things transpired in her life, which forced her to ask for release. Though I didn't expect it, I  knew she needed someone watching over her, but I respected her decision and released her. Since this , she has found her a new Dom, based on her blog. Even though I am no longer her Dom, does not mean that I do not still care for her well-being,  am happy that she has found someone that apparently is her fit. She is an avid blogger. 

Now the reason for the question of breaking the protocol of contacting a taken sub....I have not seen her blogging in quite some time, which has me concerned for her welfare. What do I do, if anything?

Or should I not care?

ADIDAS - I'm a taken sub but If I were in her position, I would feel more.... protection, concern for my well being if my ex Dom contacted me JUST to see after me. Of course not to rehash any of the past or discuss anything that's happened since. Let that be her choice. This feels like a reasonable thing to me. I'm interested in other responses. Just my opinion.
4 years ago
CrimsonPaw - Good advice 🙂 I do have ex Dom's that check in from time to time. The conversation stays light and vanilla. I'm on good terms with Dom's/bf's from my past so it's common for us to reach out to one another.
4 years ago
Tramizadohm​(dom male){Unavailabl} - Just want to know that she is ok
4 years ago
CrimsonPaw - Do y'all have any mutual friends? You could go that route.
4 years ago
Tramizadohm​(dom male){Unavailabl} - Nope
4 years ago
CrimsonPaw - Oh. 🤔
4 years ago
ADIDAS - I have never had an ex check in on me but me but if I did I thi it would make me feel more secure and comfortable about the relationship we once had and maybe even the way it ended. I also think it would speak to the fact that we are still humans and therefore care for each other on that level. Maybe if you addressed your concerns from that angle, you won't be misunderstood.
4 years ago
Litlegrl​(sub female){Dragon11} - I have had a couple ex Doms check on me from time to time. Nothing wrong with that as long as light
4 years ago
Tramizadohm​(dom male){Unavailabl} - I appreciate all you guy in responding to this.
4 years ago
Angel Wings​(sub female) - I have a couple ex Doms check on me and probably a couple that run for the hills....lol. Once a person cares does it just go away? I don't think so unless it was a horriable parting. So I say Yes!! Go and check on your now Friend and see if she's doing ok.
4 years ago
CrimsonPaw - You have me over here chanting "do it! Do it! Do it!"😆
4 years ago
Angel Wings​(sub female) - I agree!! Do it!!
4 years ago
TheAnt​(dom male) - Tramizadohm,
I hate to be the dissenter, but despite the warm and fuzzy answers given by the wonderful subs above, it is actually a transgression of protocols. She made a choice. She needs to be allowed to live out her choice. Once she went free and more importantly submitted to another Dom, your only recourse which honors protocol, would be to reach out to her Dom.
I realize this is a crappy answer, but it is the right answer int his case.
4 years ago
Angel Wings​(sub female) - He may be right concerning protocal, but I still stand by my answer being a woman and a sub. A message of Hello I was concerned is just human decency that may be needed. If not she will let him know at that time.
4 years ago
Tramizadohm​(dom male){Unavailabl} - 👍🏻
4 years ago
Tramizadohm​(dom male){Unavailabl} - Thanks for all the input
4 years ago
Angel Wings​(sub female) - I do not think there is a right or wrong answer..Everyone's Dynamic is different. You ask 100 D/s and you'll get 100 different answers. I know before I open a message. I must ask TnJoker first. 💝

Interesting conversation and views.
4 years ago

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