I read a lot of blogs from ladies who have been verbally abused by men who seem to feel that they should submit after one or two messages, that kind of thing. I very much do not want to be or become one of these men, however I would like to share something that happened to me recently and see if anyone, honestly, thinks that I was in the wrong: I started to talk to a girl who I came across on a different site. From very early on her language was, what should I call it? encouraging. For example:
(this is from her message to me). "I would be honoured to be your slave and property if I fit into the picture".
That strikes me as fairly unambiguous, and I did become a bit emotionally invested. After about four messages she asked if I had ever owned or been served by a slave. I was a bit surprised by this because the answer was readily available on my profile. Now I do not have all that much experience and most of what I have experienced has been online / long distance. I do not want to turn this into an all purpose moan but I do not do well with women in general and subs in particular. Maybe this is because I have Aspergers syndrome or maybe because I was all ready in my 50s when I got interested in BDSM as a life style. In short I am all ways looking but do not have much luck. I have enjoyed my online relationships but I realise that they are not really substitutes for real life.
Anyway; at this point she did a complete turn around: She seemed to imply that my experience was irrelevant:
"You never really had a slave then if you never had a slave serve you. You only had an online communication with someone that lives far away".
There might be some truth in this but, dam it all, I have done my best to learn and understand the life style, which so many people will not even try to do. She also accused me of interrogating her, which was not accurate at all and of saying a few things that I had not said. In my reply I pointed out that she had clearly not read my profile. I ended by saying:
"I suppose you think that you can behave like this because you are pretty, and I suppose you can, but it's not nice".
Was I right / fair to say this? I suppose the conclusion is not to use language like "I would be honoured to be your slave" when you do not really know the person.
I was a bit fucked over for a few days, but I got over it, these things happen, but was my final message to her fair?
As a secondary question; how does a dominant gain experience. An inexperienced sub can learn by serving an experienced master, but how does the master learn? and are we not in danger of simply running out of experienced masters?
All comments welcome, but if you think that I am a dick then please consider the possibility of keeping that to your self.
I do not think I have ever written a blog this long before. It is surprisingly tiering.
