Everyone deserves to be listened to in a relationship. I come across a lot of blogs and posts where someone feels unheard in their relationships. First piece of advice I can give is don't be afraid to express yourself. So many of us hold back for fear that the person we are in a relationship with will reject what we will say, not like it, ignore it... Etc. You have a right to have your own feelings! If you don't express them, you become a ball of emotional stress. If you aren't sure how to express them, do something that inspires you. Maybe this helps. Writing them down before expressing them may help you put things into perspective, so you know exactly what you want to say and you don't leave anything out (and even so you don't say things you don't mean.. Think about it).
It's not always easy to express how we feel, but I can tell you if you don't and you let it compile, it only will make your state of mind worse and the thoughts continue to spin around in your head until one day... BOOM... You can't take it anymore and you explode. Then things can manifest in a way you wish they hadn't. Talk about it. And if the person on the receiving end isn't willing to listen to you, then consider this... They don't care about your feelings. No one's feelings are wrong. If the person doesn't respect you enough to just listen to you and acknowledge how you're feeling and work with you through them, they aren't worth your time. They aren't worthy of you.
On the receiving end.. Think about how you feel when you aren't listened to. It hurts doesn't it? Now, how do you think your partner must feel when you ignore when they express how they are feeling? The same way. If you care about them, LISTEN. Be there for them, be a support. That's what any relationship is about right? If you aren't on the same page and don't care about how they feel, do them a favor and hit the road. Let them find someone who does because that is what they deserve because everyone does.
Remember cage friends, none of us are perfect. I knew what I just wrote was true... But it took going through situations where I didn't express because I was afraid and not confident enough and didn't listen to learn how important both sides really are. I'll make mistakes again. I'm damn sure of it. But I'll be more conscious now and think because - I say it again - everyone deserves to express and be listened to.
Have a great day
-Ds