Understand what you play with, before you try to capture her mind. Understand the responsibilities that come with taking control of a strong, steadfast woman. A worldly and street wise woman of resolute strength, understanding and endurance.
Look beyond the gaze that she offers and see the hurt behind her stare. The hurt imparted by the treatment she receives from those in the world around her. The feeling she suffers because of rampant inequality in a world where many still believe in an antiquated methodology of everyone existing in a mans world.
The pressure that builds up inside her as she fights a daily world filled with disrespect, lack of understanding and little to no concern for her as an independent being. A world where her safety is ignored, her complaints are merely treated as white noise and where she lives amongst those that think they can do as they please, without thought of consent, nor fear of consequence.
She lives in a world where equality and acceptance are words that are merely whispered on the wind, for fear that they will blow away and be forgotten. She fights daily to gain understanding and acceptance of those around her. Fights to be recognised for her ability to do things just as well, if not better than her peers of the opposite sex.
A world where instead of us collectively getting angry and holding those accountable for despicable acts, most just take the easy and weak road of acting surprised over and over again when another “good man” commits a heinous and despicable act.
A world where revered sports stars, celebrities and men of self perceived power take advantage of their pedestal based community standing and use that standing to cover up and influence outcomes of wretched actions that leave a lifetime of trauma, shame, fear and despair for the victims.
A world where in many cultures she is more valued for her cooking and cleaning skills, as opposed to valued as an equal partner in the home and family. Where she works just as hard in her workplace, yet is more often than not treated as second rate and often underpaid and under recognised for her contribution to both her workplace as well as the society she exists in.
Understand what you play with, before you try to capture her mind. She doesn’t want to give you her submission. She wants you to understand how important it is that you treat her equally, treat her with respect and treat her with dignity, especially when you subjugate her. She wants you to understand that you must earn her submission, as opposed to simply thinking you can take it...
