Questions

Villmarb​(dom male) - Well as a dominant in the United States I think it's always good to be fully transparent yes we put ourselves out there and yes trust text time but if you are insecure and needing that attention if I was the man on the other side I would've least like to know that because then if the doors closed I don't want to assume anything if I truly want
Relationship to blossom there is no fear in being open to understand exactly how you feel and what you want that's just my opinion

Just fifi​(sub female) - Thank you for your comment
I have sent him a message now trying to explain how I am feeling. He always turns it round to make me explore myself why I'm feeling that way. I have to trust enough that he won't tell me off or tell me I'm stupid or have the "we've talked about this before"

Villmarb​(dom male) - Well that's exactly what I would do as I am looking for one to train as well I always allow themselves to be open with me I'm not shucking then that like a clam
Would rather I tell them to allow themselves to open up to me as a rose because I use the analogy that a lot of people buy roses when they're closed but I enjoy them when they're a little bit open because then as they begin to open up the true fragrance comes out so I encourage you just to take time and just to ask questions don't be afraid to take control of the conversation that doesn't mean that your topping from the bottom no that's a matter fact if I wore training you
I would encourage you to ask as many questions as possible because the more questions that you ask the more secure you would field in knowing the person that is speaking to you and you would be very comfortable and understanding how he feels and he not just as a dumb but just as a human being can understand what you're feeling as well if you have anymore questions for me believe me I'd be more than willing to answer them for you and I wish you all the best

Just fifi​(sub female) - Thank you very much. I appreciate that

Villmarb​(dom male) - Ur. Welcome

TakenLower - I would say it, and watch and wait. Give a little time and space. You really want things to possibly happen with this person and sometimes you might want it so much that you get freaked out by anything that seems like rejection. This is hard for all subs, and I have a hard time dealing with it too. In my case it doesn’t feel like rejection but neglect but I am trying to view it differently. Maybe someone has other shit to do?

Bunnie - It took a lot of reassurance for me to get used to opening up and to be able to communicate clearly and without fear. When I struggled to communicate, my Dom used to ask me if he’d ever given me any reason to believe that he wouldn’t listen... or would leave... or would get angry... or whatever, if I was honest and spoke openly with him. I would always realise that no, he hadn’t, he had always been encouraging and supportive and trustworthy and well... amazing. And that one simple question really helped build my trust and confidence in him.