First off, I want to say thank you to everyone who has been kind. I look forward to getting to know you all better.
Second is...since posting my first blog yesterday, my inbox is now flooded with messages. Some are nice, but mostly it's fake doms wanting to know my kinks, limits, and so on. I don't mind sharing basics, but as a sub, I feel like most doms miss the first stage.
In my mind, the d/s relationship has four stages. Infant, child, teenage, then adult. It's easier for me to process that way. I'll explain the first here, and maybe post the others if anyone would like to know them from my point of view.
For me personally, I think a d/s relationship should go through four stages. All equally important, but the first one is special. After all, it is the beginning of something wonderful. The dom is like a parent, the sub like an infant. The sub needs to be nurtured, feel safe and secure, bonding and trust is developed here. It's not about sex and kinks at this point. Nothing extreme, no punishment given. It's a learning experience for the sub.
Stage one- infant....Like with a baby, the dom has to learn about the sub. What makes them happy, sad, angry, ect...explore, find out likes and dislikes, get to the subs core.
Basically this is where the dom learns everything about the sub that he can. In turn, it's also a chance for the sub to get to know the dom. The baby is also learning how to please the dom. Praises are given to let them know they are doing good.
Once there is a good foundation here, you can move on to the child stage. (More fun ☺)
P.s. if you want to know the kink side, you have to know the vanilla side. Otherwise it's just kinky sex.