I've seen a lot of BDSM relationships from the outside and partners I've personally had which just....went full serious stone face. It's difficult for me to wrap my head around as to why anyone would do such a thing.
You gotta have those laughing moments, you gotta have those moments where its just 0 stress, 0 bull, just all chill. Even if i could live the lifestyle, i wouldn't be serious 100% of the time. Sure, I would pull out the paddle, break out the ropes, whatever seemed to work with my submissive, but it would be out of 'love'.
In jest what I am saying is, if you are only looking for the dynamic without having a personality attached to it, it's about as fake as it can get. You are putting on a act, and as are your partner. Be genuine, share those moments that make you human. We are not impervious, why act like we are?
Laugh , cry, cherish, play. Be yourself, that way you will both have fun. Take your time, cause sometimes that's all we have.
Just some words as i sit here with my son on sunday morning.