I am currently reading a book in which the question has been asked "Do you think there is such a thing as the 'perfect sub'?"
This is a question that made me stop and ask myself. Of course I want to be the perfect sub, I thought to myself, but then I had to look at it in a broader sense.
There is no way that I could be a 'perfect sub'. There are so many kinks and ones that I am not sure I would ever want to do, so hence I would not be considered that person's perfect sub.
Then the same answer I can up with was written in the book. "I think it is possible to be the perfect sub for one person...Maybe even more than one person. However, it's impossible to be everything to everyone and still be true to yourself."
I think all to often our submissive part wants to please so deeply because it fulfills that deep engrained part of us that we do it at the expense of our true selves, which in turn does the opposite of what we wish to achieve because than we are not our true selves.
I believe that it's ok to recognize that we don't have to be that 'perfect sub' and that it's ok to only be the perfect sub for ourselves first and then the Dom we fit and that would be a better gift to him.
Anyone else have thoughts on this? I do know that I am still a novice at this, so I admit that I am still learning and still have molding left to be done. That is why I honestly ask the opinion of others.
Just another random thought
