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Hidden In Plain Sight

The philosophies and adventures of a girl, just trying to make her way in the world.
“I’ve done every damn thing in the book wrong”... this is the story of that journey.
1 month ago. January 24, 2025 at 9:56 PM

The Feminine feels pain when he is not present.

The Masculine feels pointlessness when she is not loving.

 


It is the quality of his consciousness that allows the feminine to blossom, to open, to feel the fullness of herself as love.

 


She craves his consciousness, and she aches when she doesn’t receive it.

 


Sure, on her own she can find nourishment in the beauty of nature, or she can resource herself with the presence of her own self-care…

 


Yet for those feminine beings who love men, there is something she gets from him that she cannot get anywhere else.

 


The depth of his presence.

 


A powerful masculine presence from someone she wants will evoke involuntary ripples of energy and arousal through her body.

 


It will have her innately open with the yearning to receive him into her.

 


His consciousness brings her to fullness… the essential feminine experience.

 


And when it goes away, it hurts.

 


When he drifts off to check out another woman, the stab of agony is overwhelming.

 


When his attention is focused on the mundane and the trivial, tension fills her body.

 


When he chooses low consciousness activities, giving his precious attention to empty television, porn or alcohol… the disappointment is crushing.

 


Because she wants that attention.

 


If she could, she would have all of it…

ALL the time.

 


Of course we are human, and no man is superman

(sadly many polarity teachings have set us up to fail here)

 


So she can, and will, tolerate some degree of wavering presence.

 


The degree to which she is capable of holding the purity of love, actually.

 


Yet it still hurts.

 


But…

 


As polarity flows, there is the less talked about yearning of the masculine.

 


Just as she needs his presence,

He needs her love.

 


It is the love of the feminine that brings meaning to a man’s life.

 


Oh he may find purpose in the world in many ways.

 


Yet without the warmth of her, there is no point.

 


Because it’s all for her.

 


He builds cities for her

He makes money for her

He drives luxury cars for her

 


Behind every man’s ambition is the secret, or not so secret, desire for it to be given colour by the feminine.

 


She makes a house into a home.

 


She makes life into something worth living.

 


The love of a good woman makes a great man.

 


She holds the nectar that sweetens his existence.

 


And when that love disappears, when it dries up… none of it means anything anymore

 


This is why we see such high rates of suicide in men.

 


You can guarantee that in every instance it’s because he could not gain the love of a woman, or he lost the love of a woman, or he feared he was going to lose the love of a woman.

 


Maybe he got fired, and fearing that he could no longer provide for her… that she would no longer love him.

 


Without her love, life is empty.

 


Pointless.

 


The unconscious woman, just like the unconscious man with his lack of presence, takes this love away all the time.

 


Every criticism…

Every belittling…

Every time she points out what he’s doing wrong…

 


He is hearing “I don’t love you”

 


It’s why he defends so intensely.

 


It’s why he struggles to hear her complaints.

 


She might believe she is helping him grow.

 


But if she uses the withdrawal of love to make her point…

 


She is hurting him.

 


Just as much as he hurts her when he removes his attention from her.

 


Presence and Love.

 


The gifts we bring to each other as the masculine and the feminine.

 


Sacred gifts…

 


When they are cultivated and offered generously,

Intimacy thrives.

 


When they are disregarded, weaponised or withdrawn,

Intimacy dies.

 


This is the practice of Evolving in Relationship

 


To give our sacred gifts

 


So that together

We may thrive.

 


~ Damien Bohler~

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Agreed.
1 month ago
intenseoldman​(dom male) - Yeah, and that love is one's presence is pretty elegant and profound. I guess you could say simple, too, but I'm not going that far. I've worked a lifetime on that one. Thank you, Bunnie
1 month ago
Heart of Persephone​(sub female)​{owned} - Lovely
1 month ago
GingerSpiced​(sub female)​{Notlooking}Verified Account - I agree . It words it well.its a profound thing of giving the type of love you've always wanted because you know what it's like to not have it and never want the person you care about to feel that and somehow hope it's returned in measure
1 month ago
aliljaded​(sub female) - Amazing piece.
1 month ago
I'mME - Men have been and continue to take hits, masculinity is being lost. Colleges teach that masculinity is toxic, not about what is toxic masculinity.

The rearing of males to not ever show emotion is an example of toxic masculinity!

Thoughts Bonnie?
1 month ago
Bunnie - @I’mMe, I agree.
We’ve certainly shifted a long way from simply identifying toxic behaviours, and instead shifted to creating shame around something that is intrinsic to us as humans… masculinity and femininity.
1 month ago

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