Dancing in darkness and solitude

TheAnt​(dom male) - Ameria,
Doms (and subs) leave a dynamic for such a huge amount of various reasons. As I mentioned in one of my blogs, it rarely has to do with the sub and instead that damanable Vanilla life crept in and caused some sort of conflict.
When this sort of thing happens, even in my Vanilla life, I remind myself the lessons I have learned and that this failed relationship helps me be better in the next one as there has always been a next, better one. If the relationship would have been perfect, truly perfect, it could not fail.... Right?
Chalk it off, head up, chest out, walk shoulders level with the ground ans strut proud. Stay true to your heart and the Dom who is perfect will appear. Keep blogging. Stand out in the crowd and demonstrate why you are necessary in that next Dom's life.

Little moon​(sub female){Not lookin} - Thank you for your words of wisdom, I keep telling myself that and looking for the lessons in it all. The sad part was this had been a vanilla relationship, although I asked for more, it never seemed the right time. I realize it's about him and not me, that's part of why I'm so angry, not for allowing it to happen but for not being able to move on from it. Perhaps this is how I'm meant to learn of and handle rejection. To break a commitment is a terrible thing for me. And now I'm just fighting the anger trying to let it go.

TheAnt​(dom male) - Ameria, Because of unreliable, tempermental, money crazy, moody, bitchy, you name it vanilla women, I swore never again after the last crazy ass nut job. I have to admit, Kitty is what I was looking for. But I specifically made the conscience decision that the ONLY way I was going to be happy, truly happy, was to seek out ONLY a woman into the kink lifestyle AND ONLY a little. Her age, looks, etc were not going to be important to me this LAST time. I have had stunning former models, gymnists, cheerleaders, well educated, size zero women and NONE of them EVER left me fufilled. I happened on Kitty, and she just happens to be absolutely gorgeous, smart and has a wonderful giving personality BUT none of that was a priority. I simply wanted a "little" to match my Daddy Dom with hopefully an explorative streak which Kitty has.
My point is that if this super old dude can find such a fantastic person, so can you. Keep looking but for goodness sakes stay away for the "hit it and quit it/sex on demand in the guise of BDSM" sites and search on the more respectable sites and be VERY choosey. I know desperation can equal lower standards but stick to your guns on this....

Little moon​(sub female){Not lookin} - I'd love to blame it on desperation but honestly he's a great guy, just not man enough to handle me. He started ghosting me after a few months then completely fell off the radar, tried to make it work but called it quits when I saw things weren't going to change. Some people just see love differently.

Would you please be so kind as to direct me to Some of these other respectable sites possibly?

TheAnt​(dom male) - I can easily give you a short list of the stay away from sites such as Fetlife, BDSMU, BDSMAmerica, etc... Unless you just need a meet and beat. There are some awesome Facebook non-dating groups where you can hang out and find like minded individuals and build a romance there.. I know , non-date group to find a date right??? But it works for a lot of people. Also find the local BDSM group or club and take a few classes. You will run into a huge amount of like minded individuals and go have a coffee afterwards and see where it takes you and who knows after a few coffee meet-ups after classes, maybe your sub side will find a Dom. A great one for your sub side.

Fate - I’ve been there. Hang in there. If it’s meant to be, it will come back to you. If it wasn’t, there’s something better for you up ahead. Hugs sweetie. PM me if you need or want someone to talk to. I’m serious. Hugs hugs hugs.

Little moon​(sub female){Not lookin} - Thank you all for the support and encouragement, I'll be smiling all day from all the hugs and wisdom coming my way.