(Takes deep breath while clutching stuffie!!)
WHY is the most common thing doms ask related to what I look like?!
I understand that men are visual (ladybits makes your blood rush >insert chest banging< ROAR) blah blah blah. That’s awesome but that’s YOU/guys not ME.
Start with something silly, funny, goofy, quirky- ANYTHING other than physical looks. All that reads to ME is that you’re looking for a POA and can’t be bothered to get to know the person instead of just the body.
Read my blog and ask me questions, ask me something crazy or weird, tell me about your favorite pet that you miss so much because it’s over when rainbow bridge- I’m here for the CONNECTION AND BOND, that’s why I left the vanilla world and came HERE!
If I was interested in physical or exhibitionist it would be on my profile, if it were about sex and my body it would be screaming from my blogs, posts and again my profile.
If you can’t stimulate me mentally and intellectually there’s no WAY you’ll be able to reach me in a physical or emotional level, so the way I look physically is nearly obsolete.
It also means simply put that without the mental link neither one of us will be getting off at all. I’m finally learning to ask- what’s in it for ME?! Because I’m done with one sided and being left wanting. The want is there, the hunger, the need, but it’s for my Daddy ONLY and is not something to be shared, I will wait for him for as long as it takes.
And yet it seems without fail that EVERY guy who goes this route also magically has kik and is very impatient to talk on there?!
Not to mention if you are genuinely a Daddy dom, you would KNOW how to draw me to you and help me become comfortable before even broaching that topic as it requires trust and a mutual interest in going further.
The LAST THING I want is to come on here and explain my physical attributes and why my time or schedule is limited- I work long and hard hours and have a life around that too, end of story. You don’t need to know more that that unless/until we both decide to take thing further.
And PLEASE do not mistake this as being difficult or close minded, from my side and perspective I have had more or less the same discussion over the same topics with well over 25 prospective doms and out of politeness I always responded etc. Only a handful have stuck around longer to actually continue working on a relationship or talking with me beyond the initial discussions-of which I have recently had 5 doms approach me AGAIN not realizing they’d already spoken to me before under my old handle!?😳
It is emotionally monotonous, and extremely disheartening to have this happen time and again, and it’s a normal part of all this I understand that, but it’s a really big detractor and frankly a turn off.
Am I being too harsh or seeing things in a negative or close minded way? Please I would love to hear thoughts and opinions on this!
(hugs stuffie in death grip and stomps off to burrow under blankies )
