Sub Steam

Did that title catch your attention. Caught mine too, when I was informed tonight that I was a "fruit loop", "crazy", and a "true bitch". All because I wasn't up for CHEATING on my Daddy Dom.
Now this is going to be a long read intertwined with a little bit of a rant and a lot of confusion, due to my own mind telling me that I was in the wrong. I received a message tonight from a male asking me if I wanted to "have some discreet fun". There are those on a side, most of the time the female side, or submissive side, that tend to get more of these messages than the other side. Sad fact of life but its true, and no I'm not saying that Dominants and men aren't preyed upon as well with these things, its just more frequented on this side. I say this because I have male and Dominant friends and their inboxes aren't quite as busy as mine. Its frustrating. I don't normally get so fired up at these messages, I normally politely decline and move on with my evening. This guy though, I think, it was due to the fact that he knew. Its all over my profile. All the key words. MONOGAMOUS. Not polygamous. Nothing wrong with polygamy at all. I have seen the day where I tried it. It didn't work for me. There's only one owner on me, his name is there, in both places as my Dominant and Daddy. I don't state in my profile anywhere that I'm searching for a playmate. I thought my profile was clear. Maybe I'm mistaken. All that being said when Dom>>> I wont put his full profile name up here messaged me ....
"Im in corydon until thursday if you want discreet fun. Ill pay for fuel or whatever!"
.... I was a bit appalled to say the very least. A bit of background, before I found, and married my Daddy I was married for almost 15 years, then he cheated, numerous times. Broke our family apart, kids suffered, I had a mental breakdown, cheating is murder. There's a difference in an open marriage, polygamy, contractual understandings, etc. Its the betrayal that is murder. My opinion. My belief. My trauma. You don't have to agree, that's what makes us all so unique and makes the world turn. So me being me, I responded to the blatant disregard for my boundaries and respect of me and my Daddy. No he doesn't know me, and there are people that say he doesn't owe me respect, I disagree. I believe EVERY individual deserves respect even when or if you don't believe the way that they do. Respecting our fellow humans has become a thing of the past and the world is suffering for it. Now in my response, I was actually quite judgmental and disrespectful of another group and I'm ashamed of it. However, as apologetic as I am, I'm not a liar. The judgment and disrespect comes from my own experiences and trauma and I was triggered. I live by the YKINMKBYKIOK (Your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok) rule. So I replied...
"BDSM/Dominant/Submissive/Daddy/Little.. it’s about trust. Full trust and consent. Consenting to things you wouldn’t trust just anyone to do to you. It’s about a bond, and if that bond is broken, if that trust is broken, it’s just the same as some pathetic vanilla relationship that can fail at any time cause someone wants to fuck around and find out. Clearly my profile says I’m submissive, so no I’m not some pathetic Vanilla with a kinky side that will take you up on that. Some people value the sanctity of who they are. Boundaries are set, just as they were in my profile. You crossed them. Zero respect, zero trust, and you can imagine my opinion of this message and the one behind it!"
I believe every word of what I wrote. Some people are on here to get their kink on, some are here to prey on others, and some actually live this life religiously.
Now I am NOT submissive all the time. I work in the medical field and I have to be firm in the position that I'm in, a leader. I've always been a leader, I have ALWAYS been in control because I learned from a very very young age that if your not in control bad people hurt you and its dangerous. I'm a firefighter. I have to maintain that same thought process during emergencies. I am a mom of, like a lot of kids (most are almost grown lol, so I'm really holding onto that control) lol. The only time I allow the loss of control (notice I said allow, cause I know I cant control everything), is when I am with my Dominant. It is a safe place, and he can quieten the 1,000,000 thoughts that are running through my head at warp speed at any given second. Now, his reply is where the brain washing comes in...
"Crossed what? I just asked if you wnated to play? Fucking crazy ass people i swear😂 it was a simple fucking question. I didnt need a lecture from some fruit loop whos so wrapped up into living a fantasy she looses her sense of real life. My bad. But your a true bitch😂"
Interesting. No, buddy, not a bitch. Your profile name has "Dom" in the beginning of it. You claim to know what that is... LOL. Not living a fantasy, just because I believe in a way of life that you clearly have zero respect for. If that were the case we could call out every religion, culture, and ideals that others live by. But I choose respect and information. Not lost my sense of real life, I made a contractual agreement with a collar in August of 2019 with Scoobydoo (LOL Scoobydoo, weird calling him by his screenname), a ring in 2020, and a wedding vow the following year. True Bitch, depends on who you ask... however I dedicate my days and nights to assisting those in need, sometimes even above my own families, with both of my jobs. I feel guilty for it every time those tones drop. I try to be kind to everyone, even those who doesn't deserve it. I actually do believe in magic and goodness in the world and I try to be a force of good because I feel like the world needs it. I don't like drama, and I like rules and guidelines. I like respecting others, but I do believe in standing up for others and I'm learning to stand up for ME. Daddy was going too but, again, I don't like drama and I asked him if he would leave this one alone. He can't fight all the creeps. Maybe I overreacted but I take my lifestyle very seriously. And when boundaries are set and no mixed signals are given, you don't get to call someone crazy or a bitch. Unless its Daddy and he's pulling my hair lol.