My Journey Into Me

There's a few things you need to know about me.

1. There will be days when I may not talk much. Life has dealt me an interesting hand and I'm still learning how to play all of my cards. Not saying I'll just up and ignore you for weeks on end, but I may not respond immediately for a few hours.
2. I don't trust easily. I've been hurt before. The walls I have keep me sane, and keep others at a safe distance. But when I do trust you, and share things... don't fuck me over and tear me apart.
3. I deal with anxiety, and I'm still learning how to deal with it. So be understanding if I have a panic attack, don't automatically go into a rant about how I need to get on medications. There's a reason I'm not on them.
4. I absolutely hate liars. Honesty is the most important trait to me. If you lie to me, you had better tell me. Because if I find out in another way, I won't be a ray of sunshine about it. There will be consequences for lying. That doesn't mean that I'll just deal with repeated lies. I will say something, I will warn you when I am about to be done with your lies.
5. I will respect your boundaries. What you are comfortable and what you are uncomfortable with is your right as a person. As part of that I require a safe-word. Most people automatically have one, other's don't. Having a safe-word makes it so much easier for me just simply because I don't have to second guess if I'm doing something that you are not comfortable with. If you use it, we will talk about it. I need to know what happened so that it: One, doesn't happen again, and two, so that it doesn't become an awkward moment between us.
6. I like to use a color system. Simply put, whatever we're doing I need to know you're okay with it. Green (I'm okay/I'm enjoying myself), Yellow (I have questions/I'm concerned), Red (I'm scared/I need to stop). This is in addition to the safe-word.
7. Health is a priority to me. I'm not saying that you have to be the healthiest person in the world. What I am saying is that no matter the health issue I want to support you, not only as your dominant, but also your friend.
8. Aftercare will always happen, it doesn't matter if it was a simple session or an intense session. I will ALWAYS take care of you afterwards. I will help you clean up, get you a food and drink if needed, and have no problem just holding you while you relax.
9. I am a sadist, watching the strike of a flogger, the smack of a paddle, or just even my hand on your ass is a big thing for me. I understand that is a scary thing for some, but I will still respect your boundaries and listen to you if you have concerns.
10. Everyone has their own demons, even me. There will be days when they rear their ugly heads and try to bring me down into my past. I understand and want to support you, and I ask that you do the same for me. Whether it's just a simple, Hey you've got this. or, Wanna talk about it? it helps.
11. Bottom line is, I'm not just looking for a quick and easy thing. I want a friend to stick by and someone who'll stick by me. After all, if I'm performing the role of Dominant for you, we need to be more than just random strangers to do that effectively.

I figured I would put this out there. Not just because it helps me understand myself, but also because it helps others understand me better as well.As usual I hope y'all have an amazing and wonderful day. 😎 Stay safe!