The last several days the lonely fat girl has really struggled with the concept of communication. In this lifestyle there are the 3 C’s – Consent, Communication, and Compatibility. Communication is the core to it all. If she can’t have consistent communication with her daddy, or potential daddy, then she can’t figure out if she is compatible with him. If she can’t have consistent communication with him then she can’t build the trust needed to be able to submit to him. If she can’t have consistent communication with him then how can she ever really give him the consent needed to do the things they wish to explore mentally, emotionally, or physically.
The lonely fat girl hears from so many Dominants who say communication is key. They say they believe communication is so important. They say communication is extremely important to them. However, she hears from very few Dominants who seem to know what consistent and thoughtful communication really is.
The lonely fat girl is not high maintenance. The lonely fat girl is not clingy. She is far from these things. She is up front in the beginning when she first starts communicating with someone. The lonely fat girl tells them she needs consistent communication.
One of the lonely fat girl’s biggest pet peeves is trying to have a conversation about the lifestyle and expectations of the other when the communication isn’t consistent. She has experienced several things. One or two messages throughout the day insinuating they have the time to talk, but they don’t respond for hours or until the next day. Another one is being in the middle of a conversation, the back and forth is going well, and then they just stop with no explanation and she doesn’t hear from them for hours again or the next day. The lonely fat girl laughs when either one of these things happen and then they send a message like, “Hey!”, or “What’s up?”, like nothing every happened. They ignore the last question she asked them. When the lonely fat girl asks what’s going on, they think she’s silly to think anything was wrong. Really? He just ghosted her for a day or two.
The lonely fat girl is hurt when this happens. She is not a primal predator. She does not enjoy the hunt. When someone does this, she starts thinking there is something wrong with her. She wonders if she has does something wrong. She wonders if he was ever really that interested in her. She wonders if he is playing games with her like every other daddy she has had has done so far. She’s the lonely fat girl. Her experience is dominants and daddies just want her for a fun fuck. Her experience is she is nothing more than the consolation prize to be quickly discarded when something better comes along. The dominants and daddies try to convince her she’s wrong until she starts to believe them. Then they prove she was right once again.
The lonely fat girl has demons she is trying to fight. She needs to feel accepted. She needs to know that her potential daddy will be consistent with her. Especially on the days when she is fighting those demons. If he can’t be consistent in the beginning with conversing with her why would she ever think he’s going to be there when the demons are haunting her. The lonely fat girl isn’t looking for her daddy to fix her. She isn’t in this lifestyle to heal her demons. She has done the work to heal those pieces of her. But that doesn’t mean they are gone. The lonely fat girl still has bad days. There are days when there are so many triggers throughout the day, she can’t help but feel them, hear them, see them. The lonely fat girl doesn’t want her daddy to fix her when this happens. She wants him to be there. She wants him to hold her and listen to her as she moves through it. She wants him to reassure her she is safe to feel what she is feeling. But she’s never going to be able to trust he will be there for her during those times if he can’t be there consistently from the very start.
The lonely fat girl’s time is just as valuable as his. She has things going on. She is busy with life. When he does this to her it tells her he really doesn’t value her as a person. Again, she may be a submissive and a little, but she is valuable. She thanks him for his time. She respects him when he gives her his time. Not once has any dominant or daddy ever thanked her for her time.
