--Not really. (joking) But, did I snare your attention?
Good.
I will say that this is more of a ranty-post and also open for discussion. I want your feedback, your opinions, etc.
Perhaps it's just a pattern I've noticed. Maybe it's just me?
I'm not certain... But, I feel like there's a bit of a double-standard.
You see, When a sub has "Protected" on their profile- that's one thing. (Which I don't overly feel like launching into right now.)
But now that I have "Considered" I haven't really had any issues with random Doms trying to slide up into my DMs anymore. In fact... It's quite opposite.
The double-standard I keep seeing is that subs just... Don't seem to care? --Lemme explain.
When a Dom looks at a sub's profile. They might see that "Considered" tag or someone's name, or "Taken", etc. and simply move on.
Lest they step on another Dom's toes. Usually; a Dom will respect another Dom and not bother, or speak to another's sub.
(Now, mind you. This isn't all Dom's. There will always be a few that will disregard this entirely.) It's just out of respect, you don't touch or pester other people's things, pets, etc.
It's almost like a gentleman's agreement of sorts.
It feels like subs do not have this rule at all. Multiple times in my inbox, I've had submissive folks approach me wanting me to take command and be a Domme to them since my profile reads "Switch."
Despite the fact I have it posted on my tag {Considered}, also in my profile it stated I'm under the consideration of someone else.
I even have a voice clip attached with my profile stating the same thing.
Or, I've seen multiple subs approach my Dom and pop up in his inbox.
He and I share every single message we receive to one another. So I see what happens just as he does. We know.
When I first heard subs were PMing him, I was a little insecure about it. In my history, I've had a lot of people who were close to me pull a few stunts that's left a couple skeletons in my closet (But, that's neither here nor there.) Over time and building trust, I'm not worried anymore.
My Dom doesn't fool around, he will flatly tell someone either not to message him again if the first message sends up red-flags.
Or he'll state clearly that he will only talk with someone if it's vanilla chat, and I'm thankful for that. (Lemme stop myself before I start gushing too much...)
((Which, I see what you're doing there more manipulative, sneaky subs. Disguising conversation as friendship, then when my Dom or myself tells you we will only have vanilla chat, you disappear. That makes it pretty damn obvious what you were up to and what your intentions were...))
I won't lie, some of those messages have left me prickling up and baring teeth in dislike. Like... The audacity.
How many times can someone put in their profile:
"I'm not looking."
"I'm not interested."
"Only looking for vanilla chat."
"I'm considering... / considered by..."
When you look someone up, I'm pretty sure you have to go to their profile in order to message them privately or on BOND, aye?
So hence my sarcastic title.
subs apparently can't read.
Maybe I'm just showing my ignorance to the Lifestyle since I'm still learning- but it really does look like there's a double standard there.
I might just be being bitchy too; my toes are sore from having them stepped on.
So tell me, does anyone see this double-standard too? Is it just me? What problems like this do you all face?
