Many people have a dream, a fantasy, a desire for this one perfect person to enter their life. Often this image of the fantasy person was derived from public media. Let me tell you they are photoshopped within a inch of their lives usually. No real flesh and blood person can equal the image you have created in your mind. You fall hopelessly in love with your fantasy lover. Partners come and go but none are able to stack up to this perfect person you have created. You become disheartened if they will ever appear. STOP! Don't look for someone who has 100 percent of the characteristics, looks, and personality you dream of. More than likely you won't find them. Pick the traits you value the most. Be it a beautiful laugh, sultry smile and great legs. Or big brown doe eyes, pouty kissable lips and a innocence about her. Let your dream person be a foggy image in your mind. One you can't quit see. This allows us perfectly imperfect people a hopeful chance we could be the one. Connect on a deeper level; their mind vs the sexy siren body. Looks fade.....that mind will always be there.
Now for those of you who strive for perfection and are never satisfied with themselves. You're a beautifully imperfect person. Your flaws make you a individual like no other. Stop nitpicking yourself! You'll never be happy. There will always be a "well if I could look like that, if I could fix this" in your mind. Please I beg you, Stop! I implore you don't think like that. Sit down take out a piece of paper. I want you to write down a small list of what you think are your best physical features or things others have told you make you amazing. Keep this list and when you feel the slow fingers of self dislike and doubt creep into your mind look at the list. These things are your perfections, no one can take them from you. No one can compare to them. There is no other human in the world like you. You are the perfect you. Have a grand love affair with yourself. If you can't love yourself it makes it hard for others to get close enough to love you too.
I am perfectly imperfect. I am barely 5 foot. Unless you have a fantasy of a pocket pixie most men like 5 foot 4 and up. I am not the perfectly skinny Victoria secrets model many men desire. Instead I have full breasts that aren't as perky as they used to be, my ass though is to die for. Round and luscious. I dont have 6 pack abs, a tight taunt body. I have curves you can grip and squeeze and sink into. My eyes are big and round. I feel they are sometimes too big for my face. Others have told me they give me this innocent appearance they want to deflower. My legs are curvy but I don't have the thigh gap many of us strive for. I am not as book smart as some woman, my intelligence came from life and my hardships. I am beyond shy when I meet people in real life. In person I am not able to express myself as eloquently. To you these may not sound bad. To me they are my imperfections my insecurities for all the world to see. I have come to love them as I have come to love myself. They are what make me a beautiful unique individual. Embrace your perfectly imperfect self. There is no other like you.
