It is sad how often in long term relationships we begin to take for granted the other person will always be there. We become complacent and comfortable in our relationship. Never realizing the distance that is happening between the two of you. The early butterflies have worn off, suprises are gone, one day blends into another. We know exactly what they are going to do or say. The relationship is now a second skin. We no longer put in the effort we did at the beginning to win their heart. We know we already own it, so feel there is no need. This is a big mistake. You should never take for granted what you have. The relationship will become dull. Cracks will happen, boredom, a slow disconnection you dont realize is happening. You know something is missing, but don't know what. If you don't put forth the effort to figure out what is wrong and fix it, the relation ends. Introduce some new kinks in the bedroom. Try something new and fun with them you have never done before, example parachuting. Go to a new destination you have never been to. Be appreciative of all they do for you. Work on your communication.
When we get complacent in relationships our communication tends to become less important or frequent. We fail to discuss our thoughts or feelings. You could be in the same room for hours and never talk. The lack of expression of both causes even more issues. Put down the phone. Focus on each other. People have become so dependent on their phones that our relationships take second place. We carry on conversations with half a ear never looking up from our phone. We are never truly listening to the other persons thoughts or feelings. They start to feel like your phone is more important than them. Stop comparing the love stories you see others broadcast on social media. We never know how much of this is just a smoke screen, pretending they are perfect and to be envied. To be honest social media platforms seem to do more harm to us than help. We have forgotten how to interact with people in person. I often see people out on dates. Their eyes glued on their phone screens neither fully focused on each other. Instead of writing texts, put forth a effort and write a love note. Texts are forgotten and lost after a while. Love notes are treasured, stored in a place of importance, revisited often and are a great reminder of why you two fell in love or chose to become a couple.
Relationships are not easy. The work does not end once there is a commitment. I hate the saying if you have to work at there being a relationship then it is already over. This is why so many relationships get flushed down the drain without a second thought. We think there is something better out there and walk away, often not realizing we just gave up the one who is perfect for us. Put forth the effort, communicate, don't be complacent. If it still ends then at least you know you tried everything and it was not ment to be.
This can honestly even be applied to friendships or even bdsm relationships. We are guilty of taking for granted a lot of different people in our lives. Be thankful for the impact and role everyone has in our lives. In a blink of a eye they could be gone forever.
