I never would have thought that reading and putting what you learned from that book in to action could make such a change in someone. The book lady Jane gave me was titled "how to be a Gentleman" it gave me all the clues I needed to transform myself in to a man people want to be around as well as acting in front of other people. I am not going to go into great detail of what the book teaches instead I am going to tell you how it changed me. It gave me the way to control myself and there by control those around me and by control I do not mean controlling some one else's actions but control who I want around me. I do not shout and do not brag and do not let loud people around me this is something most cowboys learn early like cattle loud noises put people on edge to, so it is best to modulate both tone and volume around both. The only time a gentleman shouts is in warning of danger to someone who might not be aware, at all other times let your words get your meaning across not your volume. A gentleman discusses he dose not argue to get a point across if you have to yell you either have lost the point you are trying to get across or the other person just can not accept the point you are trying to make either way just drop it.
It also taught me how to treat people who are more fortunate and less fortunate then my self defer to those more so and with respect and kindness to those less. Now to some this may sound condescending but it was just the opposite I learned more from the supposed less then I have from the more fortunate. Once I learned how to act sir James took me along on one of his trips. There I met some of the most interesting and in some ways the mot educated people in my life. They where for the most part easy to talk to willing to teach and most giving of what they had. It was easy to understand why he wanted to help as he could. Each and every one of them had pride in themselves and would not take charity. They would trade with sir for what he carried living out there all the time allowed them to find some pretty expensive things gold silver gems of all kinds sir would take this in trade he also had a book that he carried with him that told them just how much money they had.(before you jump to the wrong conclusion sir never took a dime from what they gave him he only said he did). This allowed some or most to get a place in town as they called it and live comfortably but to tell the truth they did not want to and they had the places they had fixed up very nicely in two cases they had enough to be very comfy if they chose to.
There is a trick if you chose to follow the the rules to being a gentleman THINK the rules are important to follow but the road to becoming a Dom is to look into the rule and find the reason for it and how it fits you and why once you find that you will find it easier to control yourself. And this will give you the starting point to being able to help and understand your sub. To help them achieve and even surpass themselves and their self perceived limitations, transforming them into alfa people in vanilla society and the best sub they can be.
