The body parts may be the same but. Some can be thrown down and taken others need a soft voice and sometime tears we are all different. And understanding the deference is what make the Dom. I am a lucky lady that two of the men I have tried took the time that I needed to make me theirs.
But this is how Sir Tim took the news that I wanted him to be my Dom and has proceeded to claim what is his by rights but chose instead to to take my hart first. He has an office attached to the barn as that is his job to care and train the horses for the family. He looked at me and asked why I felt the need to for him to be more then just the Dom of the house ( he has the right and responsibility to meet my needs sexually) the height of my kink is to be taken by a man to be used as a toy for his pleasure. So I told him I wat you to love me like I love you. So my little Debbie wants my love she wants to feel my care my concern my love like you got from sir James. YES that is what i want thank you, but Debs I have loved you for many years you and Sue may have started as my closest friends and I am sorry that you have not felt it from me for so long and there is no rush for you to feel it now but when you do feel it again let me tell you I will take you in bond for the rest of your life and bring you both to my bed in the mean time tell me your desires and your needs. And when you feel my love again I will allow you to have my body and take yours in return.
Patience and kindness are but two of the essentials of the Dom. A dedicated Dom will exercise both for his Sub he will wait till the end of time if that is what is needed. Kindness in the the way he speaks to you or refers to you is even more important because he knows this may not be any thing you have control over but he has to meet your need and then care for you after that need is met. Weather it be emotional or physical that need is even more important then the act he just performed with you. This is dominance this is kindness in it's pure form he dries the tears treats the wounds bathes the soul and forgives the act without judgment they will reach down pick you up and place you back on the pedestal he has put you on. It took me several days to recognize what was there the whole time ( I can be dense at times and when it comes to love I am even more so then others). It took my partner Sue to help me see that even though we were apart in time and distance and even love he never stopped loving us the presents and cards at Christmas and our birthdays. Every time we called he answered any thing we asked he would answer. And now that I looked back over all the things I realized it was not what was owed the ladies of the house it was because he cared. Debs she said I love you more then you can know but you are a very dense girl and blind when it comes to how men love. And she is right it is something I feel but have trouble seeing. When it is happening I have difficulty seeing it for what it is an expression of love. I had the same problem when it was sir James doing it too but thankfully I have Sue to guide me in this and Now Mari and Jill helping me like everyone there is something broken in me recognizing agape from a man is one of the worst failings I have it has become a bit of a joke between the girls and I that I should come with a leash so I can be led to the points of love I miss. ya know that may not be a bad idea 😂.
Now back on topic after really thinking about it and being snowed in today 4 ' and still coming I came down this morning in nothing but a smile. And in front of the staff and my ladies I knelt in front of my Dom I did not ask just simply took him out and put him in my mouth and did another first for me took him down all the way and when he gave me what he had in him and i finished cleaning him up I just looked at him with tears in my eye's and said i love you Sir it was time for me to claim my share thank you for loving me and I'm sorry I was blind to it all this time. I then handed him a belt and said please sir show me how much you care in a way that this stupid bitch understands.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤. I am now accepted for training.
