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   All the words in the world if not connected the right way are useless. with these words sir James put a book down in front of me. It's title MEN ARE FROM MAR'S WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. It was old and dog eared and yellow. He said John I want you to read this it will help you to listen and understand what she is trying to tell you and it will also help you to figure out when she needs an answer and when she is just talking for herself. when she is talking for herself learn to just listen and remark only if she needs direction down the right path but remember she does not always need a solution from you she just needs a sounding board to see your reaction. And some times she needs an answer that only you can give. You are lucky in that I have trained Rita to be a good sub. But now you must learn to be a good Dom and that is a hard thing to be. Yet you must learn to be and the best way for you to be the best is to learn exactly what she is trying to communicate to you the more she feels you understand about her the more she will learn to trust you. some times you can say it with a joke but most times you can't. because with women and their feelings serious is better when it comes to her feelings. Simply saying you are not being submissive enough without explaining in what way is not an answer you must explain in what way and then listen  to her answer then the negotiating can start and trust can be obtained.