It was then that the fox appeared.
"Good morning," said the fox.
"Good morning," the little prince responded politely, although when he turned around he saw nothing.
"I am right here," the voice said, "under the apple tree."
"Who are you?" asked the little prince, and added, "You are very pretty to look at."
"I am a fox," the fox said.
"Come and play with me," proposed the little prince. "I am so unhappy."
"I cannot play with you," the fox said. "I am not tamed."
"Ah! Please excuse me," said the little prince.
But, after some thought, he added:
"What does that mean--'tame'?"
"You do not live here," said the fox. "What is it that you are looking for?"
"I am looking for men," said the little prince. "What does that mean--'tame'?"
"Men," said the fox. "They have guns, and they hunt. It is very disturbing. They also raise chickens. These are their only interests. Are you looking for chickens?"
"No," said the little prince. "I am looking for friends. What does that mean--'tame'?"
"It is an act too often neglected," said the fox. It means to establish ties."
"'To establish ties'?"
"Just that," said the fox. "To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world . . ."
"I am beginning to understand," said the little prince. "There is a flower . . . I think that she has tamed me . . ."
"It is possible," said the fox. "On the Earth one sees all sorts of things."
"Oh, but this is not on the Earth!" said the little prince.
The fox seemed perplexed, and very curious.
"On another planet?"
"Are there hunters on that planet?"
"Ah, that is interesting! Are there chickens?"
"Nothing is perfect," sighed the fox.
But he came back to his idea.
"My life is very monotonous," the fox said. "I hunt chickens; men hunt me. All the chickens are just alike, and all the men are just alike. And, in consequence, I am a little bored. But if you tame me, it will be as if the sun came to shine on my life. I shall know the sound of a step that will be different from all the others. Other steps send me hurrying back underneath the ground. Yours will call me, like music, out of my burrow. And then look: you see the grain-fields down yonder? I do not eat bread. Wheat is of no use to me. The wheat fields have nothing to say to me. And that is sad. But you have hair that is the color of gold. Think how wonderful that will be when you have tamed me! The grain, which is also golden, will bring me back the thought of you. And I shall love to listen to the wind in the wheat . . ."
The fox gazed at the little prince, for a long time.
"Please--tame me!" he said.
"I want to, very much," the little prince replied. "But I have not much time. I have friends to discover, and a great many things to understand."
"One only understands the things that one tames," said the fox. "Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy things all ready made at the shops. But there is no shop anywhere where one can buy friendship, and so men have no friends any more. If you want a friend, tame me . . ."
"What must I do, to tame you?" asked the little prince.
"You must be very patient," replied the fox. "First you will sit down at a little distance from me--like that--in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. But you will sit a little closer to me, every day . . ."
The next day the little prince came back.
"It would have been better to come back at the same hour," said the fox. "If, for example, you come at four o'clock in the afternoon, then at three o'clock I shall begin to be happy. I shall feel happier and happier as the hour advances. At four o'clock, I shall already be worrying and jumping about. I shall show you how happy I am! But if you come at just any time, I shall never know at what hour my heart is to be ready to greet you . . . One must observe the proper rites . . ."
"What is a rite?" asked the little prince.
"Those also are actions too often neglected," said the fox. "They are what make one day different from other days, one hour from other hours. There is a rite, for example, among my hunters. Every Thursday they dance with the village girls. So Thursday is a wonderful day for me! I can take a walk as far as the vineyards. But if the hunters danced at just any time, every day would be like every other day, and I should never have any vacation at all."
So the little prince tamed the fox. And when the hour of his departure drew near--
"Ah," said the fox, "I shall cry."
"It is your own fault," said the little prince. "I never wished you any sort of harm; but you wanted me to tame you . . ."
"Yes, that is so," said the fox.
"But now you are going to cry!" said the little prince.
"Yes, that is so," said the fox.
"Then it has done you no good at all!"
"It has done me good," said the fox, "because of the color of the wheat fields." And then he added:
"Go and look again at the roses. You will understand now that yours is unique in all the world. Then come back to say goodbye to me, and I will make you a present of a secret."
The little prince went away, to look again at the roses.
"You are not at all like my rose," he said. "As yet you are nothing. No one has tamed you, and you have tamed no one. You are like my fox when I first knew him. He was only a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But I have made him my friend, and now he is unique in all the world."
And the roses were very much embarrassed.
"You are beautiful, but you are empty," he went on. "One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passerby would think that my rose looked just like you--the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of you other roses: because it is she that I have watered; because it is she that I have put under the glass globe; because it is she that I have sheltered behind the screen; because it is for her that I have killed the caterpillars (except the two or three that we saved to become butterflies); because it is she that I have listened to, when she grumbled, or boasted, or ever sometimes when she said nothing. Because she is my rose.
And he went back to meet the fox.
"Goodbye," he said.
"Goodbye," said the fox. "And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
"What is essential is invisible to the eye," the little prince repeated, so that he would be sure to remember.
"It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important."
"It is the time I have wasted for my rose--" said the little prince, so that he would be sure to remember.
"Men have forgotten this truth," said the fox. "But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose . . ."
"I am responsible for my rose," the little prince repeated, so that he would be sure to remember.
~Master of mine, thank You for turning the velveteen slave into Your Rose; Your Mikayla. Though I hope that it is not time You waste, but effort invested, I do not forget or take it for granted. I am grateful to be Your Rose; Your Mikayla, Your girl for so long as the love shall last... and to do my utmost to ensure that it lasts until W/we draw O/our last breaths.~
12/9/21 My dance card is incredibly full and I'm not looking for relationships which do not add value to myself and my current relationships. Yes, plural. My Partners and I practice ethical non monogamy. I, myself, prefer to be personally monogamous, but prefer it be an intentional daily choice.
I CHOOSE to be in this relationship. I am engaged in a TPE (Total power exchange) relationship with MstrJ,
a man who I have come to trust with all of my heart. His love is rain in the desert to me. He is still walking the path to His own self discovery, but we are glad to walk it side by side; Him holding my hand every step of the way. While we He is ethically nonmonogamous, His existence in my life is not negotiable. I am choicefully and intentionally monogamous and committed to Him. This does not equate to me being ok with him "cheating" on me, if you would like more information about what this relationship style looks like feel free to reach out and ask. W/we'd be happy to explain. There are many O/others who have graced the pages of my life and have helped to shape me into the woman I am now. I am forever grateful to them for all they taught me. Whether the lesson was easy or difficult, I'm grateful, as it was one more step towards being the me I'm glad to be. ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
I am a well rounded individual with a passion to learn. I enjoy discussion, debate, cooking, art, music, reading, psychology, sociology, and culture. I do not view things as online life - offline life, and do not get along with people who do. This is part of my life. If you are important to me here, then you will be important to me period.
I judge based upon intent. I always seek to understand the why behind people's actions and appreciate it if they judge me similarly. I'm here looking for a variety of things: ~Friends:
one can never have too many friends. ~Learning: one should always be open to learning, from every possible source, if one is wise.
I'm not seeking any new relationships or connections at this time. My time and energy are entirely spoken for. If you can not respect this then I'd want nothing to do with You either way.
Who is my One?
(once upon a time I wrote the following list. It was born out of a lot of growth and even more heartache. It was a prayer more than anything. I had considered removing it entirely as I have found my One; the first and only Hero in the realm of my soul... MstrJ; and I am gratefully owned by Him. However, a good and wise Man told me that a reality vs expectation would be an interesting read.... perhaps He was not wrong.)
~a mature, kind, thoughtful, intelligent, responsible Person. *Yes... He is. Every bit of that. Every single day.
~You want to take an active role in my life, not just my sexuality. You actually CARE about my career, family, friends, health, mind, spirituality, and all of the fun bits too. *Yes... He is. Every bit of that. Every single day, and more. He is present and caring in ways I didn't even know to ask for.
~You have TIME to devote to this. A slave hearted submissive takes *time*... time to learn, time to grow, time to go all of those places that W/we have both been wanting to go. *He makes intentional time for me, every single day. Sometimes minutes, more often than not hours... but it is the intentional part that matters most. He once made a promise that I would see His face and hear His voice every day. He has gone out of His way to KEEP it.
~You have a heart as big as mine. It may take time to show it, but you are not afraid of love; neither expressing nor receiving a love as deep as the ocean and as wide as the sky. *You are Rain in the desert, with a heart every bit as big as mine, and an emotional depth I'm constantly in awe of.*
~You are a Daddy who needs a clingy slightly time consuming little who hasnt really allowed that side of herself space to exist consistently. You will GET why I ask "where are you going?" Every time you stand up... and it won't bug you. You will WANT to have me waiting for you all excited to see what surprise I have in store for you that day... cause there will be. *You are every bit of that, and so much more. You were there when I finally allowed that side of myself a voice, and a name. you have been there when that side of myself has been bouncing in joy and broken in tears from deep deep wounds I was never able to shed tears over. You read to me, and never get annoyed when I fall asleep and have no idea what I heard last. You do not infantilize me, but accept the parts of me that need gentle and kind and fully get it that I do not need any more grief, suspense, or horror in my life... I've hand ENOUGH. I need love, and cuddles, and gentle, and happy. You not only love it when I surprise You, but YOU love to surprise me too. You love making me happy because I work hard to make You happy. Most of all, You love to hold me, and I will never tire of needing Your touch. Thank You for being my Daddy, my Owner, my Master, my Hero; The First and Only in the Realm.*
~You are a Master and you understand what that MEANS and you will take your time to PROVE that. consistently. always. I can't change who I am, and I like who I am... I'm a slave hearted submissive. I understand what I am. I don't need a Dom... I need a Master. *You have an are still working damn hard to know what being a Master means to You. It's a forever work, and one I'm blessed to be by Your side for. What makes You a Master? You take responsibility for what is Yours, and You never drop that. Thank You for taking responsibility for and of me. Thank You for never taking it for granted, nor shirking that responsibility. Submission is a gift, yes, but so is Your Dominance. I'm grateful.*
~You are a promise keeper. You understand that promises are not "made in the moment and life happens." No. If you give your word you KEEP IT. *Every minute of every day. Easy or hard. You do. Actions not words. *
~You are someone I can respect. You lead by example. *understatement of the century right there. I could not have dreamed You or prayed for You to come into my life, because I could not imagine that You existed. You have never asked more of me than You have done Yourself.*
~You are gentle of heart and manner. I'm a gentle hearted woman. I do not do well with anger. I don't need it in my life. I've had enough. If you shout at me I WILL be afraid of you. If you are disappointed in me, that is more than enough to correct my ways post haste. I truly do not relish disappointing my Master. I desperately want to make you proud.*You are the most merciful Man, that is not to be confused with not having expectations and standards. You will absolutely stand Your ground and draw the line where needed, for BOTH of U/us. Relationship/dynamic above the girl and the moment; to protect U/us... but that isnt to say that You revel in anger, or enjoy seeing me dance/squirm in fear or shame. I mean in the sexy sense, maybe ;) but not in the CRAP I disappointed Him sense. Thank You for viewing O/our dynamic as a partnership in the sense that You strive to help me MEET Your expectations so that I CAN best please You, as opposed to looking for moments of falling short just to snap the leash and see how I shake. Thank You for building me up, instead of tearing me down. I am grateful to follow out of love and respect which breeds devotion, not fear which breeds nothing but anxiety and brokenness. Who He is NOT:
*a current drug user or someone who enjoys getting drunk. (I'm not 420 friendly. Sorry not sorry. I need to know you are in control of your own actions at all times.)Welllll... *le sigh* You just had to go and challenge me on this one didn't You? My Master is indeed 420 friendly, but He is so with intention and responsibility. I'm still coming to terms with this, but I know I will get more comfortable with this as W/we build trust. I've come to trust Him with alcohol, because He has proven Himself trustworthy. I believe I will come to trust Him on this one too.
*there when it is just convenient for you.Nope, You aren't there only for convenience, You have made consistent intentional time EVERY single day. Day in and day out. Making the choice to come home even when it would be easier not to, just because you prefer to spend time with Your girl... thank You. I will make it worth Your while.
*out to use me as your personal porn.Ok... You are allowed. Yes please. For YOU... I want to be Your toy. For YOU, I want to be Your doll. For YOU I want to be Your hole and your slut, and Your perfect everything... whatever it might be. You get that. You get everything. Everyone else can go fly a kite... but You... ask and it is Yours.
*a misogynist.Nope, He isn't. No more needs be said. chivalry is not at all dead with this Man.
*someone with a temper issue.You are incredibly patient. You are reasonable. You communicate beautifully. As I've said before, I would kneel before You, even and especially in Your anger. I trust you.
*in a relationship with someone else (if you are we can discuss it, but I will be HARD pressed to trust this again. Twice burned.)Again, You had to go and test me on this one. I trust You. I know my own worth to You, and I know that so long as I never stop working towards being good for and to You, You will never stop working just as hard to be good for and to me. I know that You would never bring someone else into our lives who does not hold the values W/we hold... so I accept You and all those that You love, now and forever. I accept the benefit others bring into your life, and I want joy for You. But if someone hurts You, they will have me to deal with.... and i already owe you know who a mackerel hidden in the tailpipe of her car someday. ... it....will...happen.
One of the HARD WORK things I had to do was go through and admit to myself what my own needs in a relationship are. This is the resultant blog series. It might prove helpful to others seeking to do the same! IIndex to the Needs Series: Introduction: Taken to Task To The Post! Needs #1 Time To The Post! Needs #2 Growth To The Post! Needs #3 Seen/Heard/Understood To The Post! Needs #4 Safety/Consistency To The Post! Needs #5 Respect To The Post! Needs #6 to be LOVED To The Post! Needs #7 Acceptance: To The Post|! Finale: The tamed to the Tamer: 42! Follow up: The Gauntlet: EARN ME! Keep Calm and Carry a Towel!