Sadie's Sweets

duchessbutterfly​(sub female)​{NotLooking} - I had a similar experience. Rope classes, munches, and play parties were all places I felt comfortable being myself in various states of undress. People of all body types and sizes were welcome. Most everyone was friendly and interested in chatting. It was a non-judgmental forum, and I'd never experienced that before anywhere.

Bunnie - I started that way. Then the deeper I went, it actually tore apart my self-esteem. What I realised was that I had stepped into an area of myself I had denied for a very long time, and not wanted to face. Finally, now coming out the other side of that aspect of the journey, with a lot more self awareness, I’m learning to accept myself as I am… not how I wanted to be. It’s been surprising, and at times I felt like I’d kicked a hornets nest. But it has lead to a place I never imagined, so, there’s that :)

CanBiWife​(dom female) - I have always wanted to go to a Dungeon … probably just as an observer. I find dungeon pix incredibly arousing.

It must be wonderful to go there in real life and not feel it being odd.

My I ask what kinds of things you saw at the Dungeon ?

Were you only observing … or did you participate too ?

Just curious … I hope it’s okay to ask

duchessbutterfly​(sub female)​{NotLooking} - Witnessed rope suspension, rope bondage, shibari, flogging on St. Andrew's cross, forced orgasm, wax play, fire cupping, bare hand spanking on a kneeling bench, violet wand, henna tattoos, light needle play, impact play with crops, dressage whip, bull whip, breath play/asphyxiation, machine/toy fuck, sissification. I participated in rope/shibari, wax play, forced orgasm, violet wand and flogging while at public playspaces or private play parties.

GigglesthrupainO​(sub trans woman)​{Free submi} - For me it has been mix, I have been part of either building or attending BDSM groups,dungeons and play spaces for years. I learned along time ago that the space don't make the lifestyle what it is . It is the people . The dungeons are common around me. I know of at least 9 of them . But as far as my self esteem it has been up and it has been down. But that is depending on the toxic people that are around me. If I have good people where I don't get stressed out because of the drama and backstabbing. Then my self esteem goes up with less stress. But I recently left the public venues and have gone underground . So for now my self esteem is up and I am relaxed not having to deal with the peoples crap anymore.

CanBiWife​(dom female) - Oh dear … sorry to hear that

GigglesthrupainO​(sub trans woman)​{Free submi} - Thank you

Purple Freesia​(sub female) - For me; BDSM has created a deep awareness of who I was and who I wanted/needed to be - my journey has been interesting, enlightening and tragic all at the same time. Though, most of all it has given me the capacity to live, forgive and have strength to face anything that comes my way.

Authenticly honest - Self-esteem comes from being truthful to own self and them honesty comes in play that empowers that self-esteem.