It’s a mystery to me where I fall on the Poly Continuum. I’d always thought that I was a monogamous person. In fact, when filling out my profile I initially chose monogamous. I joined a group to connect with other monogamous people only to find out that according to them, I wasn’t. So I left that group with no hard feelings because it’s their group, their rules.
It did leave me wondering though which bucket I fell into. They believed that to be monogamous you had to do everything with your one partner. Well, I played with several people at the time, still do, and probably always will to some extent. So I took monogamous off my profile.
Even so, I didn’t feel comfortable putting Poly on my profile. It just didn’t feel completely true for me. At least not from what I was reading. In time, I did an amazing Podcast interview with D20Domme (check out podcasts here on thecage) and learned a bit about Polyandry and that seems to suit me well.
For many years I struggled with labels. I don’t anymore. I’m me and that’s it. While I currently, technically practice Polyandry I still don’t identify as Poly. And that’s ok. I’m still learning and growing.
How do you relate to Polyamory? Feel free to share in the comments.
Curious about Polyamory? We’re reading and discussing “Polysecure” by Jessica Fern. (Check out events here on thecage).
