Our most important play partner is ourselves. We so often talk about the search for a play partner. While that can be fun it can also leave you feeling lonely and left out. Even if you do have a partner, there may be times that they’re ill/unable or far, far away. Time to get your solo kink on. Not only is kink possible on your own, it comes with some great advantages!
Self-Discovery
Embarking on solo kink adventures provide a unique opportunity for self-discovery. When you're alone, you have the freedom to explore your interests, preferences, and values without external influences. It's a chance to listen to your inner thoughts, reflect on your aspirations, and make decisions based solely on your desires.
You can try many different things on yourself to see if you like them. As a Top, I always try my toys on myself first before I use them on others. You can take a more scientific approach to see if you like different implements. Without the pressure to please someone, you can truly get in touch with yourself. As a top, target practice is a thing – a thing you can do by yourself.
Risk Management
As with every type of play, make sure you have a comprehensive understanding of your risk profile. What risks are you willing to take? Plan ahead, perhaps even arrange a safe call.
Cupping
Both fire cupping and suction and be performed on oneself. Suction cupping might perhaps be a bit easier. Either way, your thighs and midriff are excellent targets for this activity. Many people enjoy suctioning on their genitals. You have the freedom to experiment with how much suction you’d like the cups to deliver. When you know what you like, you can clearly communicate it to a partner should you choose to play with one.
Self-Bondage
Self-Bondage is a kink in and of itself. It does come with risks you should make sure you’ve prepared for. Ensure you learn as much as you can about it before you try it and make safety a priority. That being said, you can explore how you feel with different types of rope. In a rope class I took I learned a lot by tying my own legs in different knots, etc. While rope is not my strong point, I went to the class alone, I learned a lot and had a great time.
Abrasion Play
I love this as a sensory play. Yes, I love it when I have a partner who can do it for me, I love it just as much (if not more) when I do it for myself. I’m just as likely to drop in that yummy masochist-space when I do it for myself. I have a tendency to go farther when I’m alone – I don’t safe out on myself as quickly as a partner might.
Parasocial Play
If you enjoy hypnosis, tasks, or a wide range of other kinks, there’s a good chance you can find a content creator who has a vast library of experiences in which you can indulge. Solo Kink was one of my motivations for Project MoriKai. You can find some of my library here on the Cage in my blog.
This is just a brief sampling of what you can do alone. Truly, the list is endless. So remember, you always have a partner. Sometimes you’re your own partner. And that’s the best partner to have. Enjoy!
How do you solo kink? I invite you to share in the comments.
