I need to be honest for my own safety. I am a masochist (no secret), who enjoys painful, forced, physically demanding play.
Beginners close your ears, and don't I repeat DO NOT try this as you learn about BDSM.
I never used safe words. I found I abused the use. I would see the first slap coming and scream my safe word. Or there was the other extreme where I would be in sub space unable to verbally communicate. So, safe words have not been of great use to me.
My Dominant in the past has checked my wettness to ensure my pleasure level. Also, afterwards we would have a conversation of my experience. So far this has worked for me.
This is one big reason I am real time only. I am very non verbal in the moment. In person you can read me to ensure my safety.
I just made less work for my therapist 😋
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