Kindness

1.) The past can't be changed.

2.) Opinions don't define your reality. 

3.) Everyones journey is different. 

4.) Judgements are not about you.

5.) Overthinking will lead to sadness. 

6.) Happiness is found within.

7.) Your thoughts effect your mood.

8.) Smiles are contagious. 

9.) Kindness is free.

10.) It's okay to let go and move on.

11.) What goes around comes around.

12.) Things will get better with time.

Happy Monday! Peace!

Winter is almost over

Spring is on its way

Warmer days

Fresh green grass

The sun will chases the blues away

Here comes the sun

And I say "It's all right!"

I've gotten to a place that is new for me!

Life has been an adventure thus far that has been one of learning, whether through traditional education, from the school of hard knocks, years of repetitious activities or from parental training, each day has held a lesson.

Now I am again at a transitional point, life is changing because of our age. It's different this time though I am now more reflective and thoughful before I make life altering decisions.

Luckily my Master is a believer in expression of free will, even for his submissive. The free will is given as long as I stay commited to him. This has given me the ability to be a person with purpose, to be strong for him with the knowledge I will work for our union, always respectful to our D/s commitment even when I am seeking new imformation and learning from new experiences.

I found The Cage by accident almost two years ago not at all looking for a dating website or to hook up with someone but rather looking for ways to stay active and stimulated in the lifestyle while living mostly isolated from social kinky interactions. Over these two years many things have changed in our life.

In my quest I have experienced an epiphany, or maybe I have just come full circle. I now know where I am and where I am going in this world of kink.

I have learned I am not a player, I am not a tease, that the fantasy of online play is just virtual masturbation and even then it can never be as satisfying as real!

But the big change is Master, he is older now and is slowing down sexually but I am not. I continue to need stimulation, I need attention, I need sex!

I wont slow down, I wont give it up! I am a minx!

The qundri is how can we both stay happy but also satisfied?

I held my Sir, I held the love of my life and said even though I am still learning life's lessons I continue to change but this is real, this will always be where I find my happiness. In those arms that hold me tight each night.

I voiced my concerns of my sexual satisfaction while I held him tight, I voiced my need and he listened to me. I am important to him, my needs and desires are important, he is still interest in satisfing my desires. Yes, he understands me!

So things are changing, he will always be the lead but he will support my needs, mostly he wants me to be happy, he wants to help make me happy so he has promised to give me the stimulation I need, all I have to do is hold him tight! Even if I am insatiable and have this need everyday my Master will take care of me because he loves me!

My epiphany is that real is the only way for me to be truly satisfied.

If You Relate To These 10 Signs, You’re Probably An ‘Extroverted’ Introvert
by Jenn Granneman

What Is an ‘Extroverted’ Introvert?
Enter the “extroverted” introvert.
The extroverted introvert is known by many names. Some call it an “outgoing introvert” or “social” introvert. Others argue that this is ambiversion.
So what does “extroverted introvert” really mean?
The thing to understand about introversion and extroversion is they are not all-or-nothing traits. Think of these two temperaments as being on a spectrum. Some people fall closer to the extreme ends, making them either very introverted or very extroverted. Most people are closer to the middle, which gives them qualities of both introversion and extroversion.

If you think of yourself as an extroverted introvert, it probably means you’re an introvert at heart — but you may be more outgoing than other introverts because your personality is more middle-of-the-spectrum.

Are you an extroverted introvert? If so, you’ll recognize yourself in these 10 signs.

1. Your energy level is closely tied to your environment.

You’re sensitive to your surroundings. It matters how your environment looks, what kind of music is playing, how many people are present, and the noise level. The ambiance of a place can either energize or drain you, depending on if it fits your preferences. A loud rock concert in a crowded stadium might be overwhelming — but an up-close-and-personal acoustic set at your favorite club is soothing.

2. You find people to be both intriguing and exhausting.

People watching? Yes. Meeting new people and hearing their life stories? Fascinating. Spending almost every night hanging out with friends? Not a chance. Outgoing introverts enjoy meeting new people but can only endure so much socializing. After a busy weekend or a long day at work, you may feel the need to disappear and recharge by being alone or with just one other person.

3. Certain people and interactions drain you while others recharge you.

You have a few friends who you could hang out with for practically forever. It seems like you never run out of things to talk about. Being with them is easy. You actually feel better after spending time with them, not drained — and you act pretty outgoing around them. Other people tire or bore you and you need to get away. Being alone is better than settling for second-rate company.

4. You can be charming but also deeply introspective and reflective.

You make small talk when it’s expected of you because you know it can lead to deeper, more authentic conversation. People feel comfortable around you, and you easily get others talking and opening up about themselves. When you’re out with friends, you make sure everyone’s having a good time. However, most people don’t realize how “in your head” you really are. Although you appear easy-going, your mind is always running.

5. When you feel rested and recharged, you reach out to others.

Often, you’re the one who organizes social events for others. Playing the host is ideal for the extroverted introvert — it allows you to spend time with people on your own terms. But when you run out of energy, you’re out, and like a true introvert, all you want is a little hibernation at home.

6. You need time to warm up in social situations.

Your first impression belies your real personality. At first, you come across as quiet and reserved. But once you feel comfortable, you have no trouble chatting. You won’t spill your life story or divulge your insecurities to someone you’ve just met, but you will reveal intimate details once trust is built up. The better someone gets to know you, the more “extroverted” you seem.

7. It actually takes less energy to say what’s on your mind than to make small talk.

True extroverts rarely struggle with what to say. It’s easy from them to make chitchat — and talk with ease about virtually any topic. But not so for most introverts. Many introverts find it difficult to force small talk. They’d rather talk about big ideas or connect in an honest, authentic way. This is especially true of extroverted introverts. It’s far easier for them to say what’s on their mind than to fake a rousing discussion about the weather.

8. You’re selectively social.

Although you gain a lot of satisfaction from your relationships, unlike a true extrovert, you don’t have the energy to maintain a large social network. Plus, you don’t click with just anybody. So you make your limited “people” energy count by investing it into just a few close relationships.

9. You have no interest in trying to prove yourself in a crowd of strangers.

At networking events or parties, you’re not someone who “works the room.” Nor do you feel the need to draw a lot of attention to yourself in social situations. Yes, you see the value in making connections with others, and you especially love those rare moments when you meet a like-minded soul. But you’ll probably never be the most popular person in the room — and you’re okay with that.

10. You’re often confused for an extrovert.

Your friends and family don’t buy that you’re an introvert because you’re just so social. In fact, it may have taken you a while to realize that you’re an introvert — because you play the extrovert so well. Now you find yourself constantly having to explain your introversion and how you get your energy. Unfortunately, most people don’t get it.

Keep in mind that there’s no wrong way to do introversion — and we all act introverted at times and extroverted at others. You can be outgoing and still be an introvert. It’s all about understanding your needs and honoring your own style, even if that means being the life of the party one night and then binge watching Netflix alone the next. 

Yes, I think i am in the right place!

Every time when I look in the mirror
All these lines on my face getting clearer
The past is gone
It went by, like dusk to dawn
Isn't that the way
Everybody's got the dues in life to pay

I know nobody knows
Where it comes and where it goes
I know it's everybody sin
You got to lose to know how to win

Half my life
Is books, written pages
Live and learn from fools and
From sages
You know it's true, oh
All these feelings come back to you

Sing with me, sing for the years
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tears
Sing with me, just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good Lord will take you away

Yeah, sing with me, sing for the year
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tear
Sing with me, just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good Lord will take you away

Dream on

Some are lost

Some are found

Some have it all

Some have none

Some are happy

Some are sad

Some are scared

Some are mad

Happiness isn't easy you see

Someone will always disagree

The hardest part most will say

Is finding someone just right to stay

Dont give up

Someone's there

That is just right to really care

My words are here to give all hope

I wish it was a toxic dope

That could help to ease the pain

And make all pain go away

Dream On

May Peace and Happiness Find All Those Here

Happy Tuesday!

I wasnt going to blog today but this was to good not to share! Lol!