Hey yall...
Been a little bit....
As a new dom I sometimes hold back. Letting my vaillia side take over and fear that maybe I've upset my partner. Over the holidays we had a breakthrough. I didnt let the fear stop me from taking control. I wasnt worried about things like..."I hope I havent upset her". I put my foot down and took control. I was so nervous at first....let me tell you...she loved it...I loved it too. I wasnt holding back. We know each other very well I shouldn't have to be afraid to take control ....truth is I was to a point where it was "do or die time"
Happy to say I did it. Funny thing was...I was not the least bit uncomfortable. Very natural especially with my baby girl. She asked me afterward..."was that too far outside your comfort zone" I answered honestly. "Not at all". Took a tiny mindset shift and it feels natural.
Very positive outcome overall...and it brought us closer together.
