Indigo Blue

CSI - My understanding is that there is Old Guard, there are Traditionalists and there is The New Generation. Old Guard and Traditional focus more on protocol and expectations, there are usually far more rules to follow (always walk one step behind and to the right, always end a sentence with their title, must be in whatever pose once they arrive home) but it depends on each individual dynamic as to what is negotiated and discussed. I found the fundamental differences being that OG and traditionalists do not believe in brats being a thing at all and there is no such thing as funishments. It sounds as though OG and traditionalists recognized there were differences between submissives and slaves, but didn't necessarily always listen to them. I think one of the benefits of being in this day and age is that most everyone is all about consent and realizes that either side can walk away if they aren't happy, whereas before it was a matter of "I agreed to it and now I am stuck with them forever because I love this way of life". I also think now that we have gone through the "women can and do enjoy sex too" there is more of a "it's ok to ask for what we want and need" attitude, which I am very grateful for.

Tl;dr OG focuses more on higher protocols and obedience and being committed all day every day, TNG seems to be more focused on sex and seems to be an "on demand" thing that can be turned on and off rather than living the life 24/7 (although can vary from and even within different dynamics)

Indigolover{Beast} - Thank you for your answer. My Dom and I don't fit into either OG or NG. We do live that 1950's lifestyle 24/7. When life gets the better of me we are more DD/lg. Does this mean we are not truly apart of this lifestyle?

CSI - I would say you absolutely are. I identify with elements from both. I also like to think of the lifestyle as a gigantic, happily coloured umbrella that encompasses everything that doesn't fit society's very narrow definition of "normal" ;)

Indigolover{Beast} - This is why I love The Cage. My community here makes me feel loves and part of the family. I am really getting anxiety with this other group. I am thinking of leaving the other group.

CSI - Sounds like a good idea. If it doesn't feel good in your soul, then it isn't the right place for you

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - Never let someone tell you who you are and where you belong. That is how these "cult like" places happen in the first place. If you want to live with high protocol *Waves Hand* or be a powerful Alpha Submissive *Waves both hands!* you get to, and no one should be able to break you down to what they want, without your permission. Some of us need the guiding hand, some of us find peace in giving it all away. You are part of the community. Just be safe, to your body, mind and soul.