Hello Indigo Fam
No matter what type of dynamic you have there is a need for structure. It defines us and controls chaos. It reminds us the is a hierarchy and succession. The degree of rule depends on if you are a bedroom submissive or 24/7 engaged in the lifestyle. I for one need this in my life. The vanilla world for me hold me accountable to be "in control" over many processes. My children, family, and friends hold me to a high standard...to solve all problems and take care of things. My job puts me in control of many people, rules, and processes. When I am with Beast I can let go to a degree...His control is my release. From simple rules like folding his clothes a particular way, taking his outside shoes off once we are in for the night or laying out the items he requested for our session are examples of my tasks. His commands and praise when I am his good girl...or dirty slut allows me to detach from the vanilla. Even when I am a bit bratty or I don't ask permission to cum, the consequence of swats on my calves(I hate those cause I have thick juicy ones) keep me structured. So let's share. How does structure work in your dynamic. You know I love to hear from my community. Love you all!
Peace
Indigo
